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*aileyhall
writes:My boyfriend got his very first teaching job this fall teaching music at an elementary school. I always knew he would be a great teacher, he loves kids and music is his passion. We met last year in university; he is two years older and kind of perfect. I grew up in a very religious family and told him I wasn’t really into the party thing and he spent a lot of weekends in my dorm watching movies with me so I wouldn’t be alone. We have done a few things sexually but we have never had sex. We have been dating for almost a year and he is still patiently waiting for me to be “ready”. Because he now has a job and I’m still in university we are six hours apart. A few of my friends and even some family keep telling me to not hold on breath in our relationship lasting and that he has probably “hooked” up with someone already. They keep saying that no guy that wasn’t a virgin is willing going to go a year without sex. He posted a short video on Facebook /Instagram saying how proud he was of his students and how much fun he had planning the Christmas concert. All these girls have been gushing in the comments saying how cute it was that he was dancing him the kids etc. Now I’m kind of worried that why people are saying is true. So I guess I question is, do you think it’s possible for a guy to be ok with out having sex, do all guys cheat? Part of me thinks maybe I should just have sex with him so he doesn’t think to look at others
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (24 December 2017):
 Are you that weak that anyone can influence you and change your opinion on YOUR boyfriend, someone you have loved and chosen for yourself? People around you have no business to comment on your personal life and for heaven's sake, grow a backbone.
Why is it any of their concern whether or not you've had sex? This is such a private thing between two individuals, why are you discussing this in the fish market?! Learn to stand up for yourself and for him instead of allowing others to get the better of you.
How do you think this guy's going to feel when he hears that this is how you think of him and worse, you've been discussing intimate details with others? I would be absolutely livid if my partner was talking about what we've done or not done for that matter and people around him were guiding him! The fact that you are so easily swayed shows that your belief, faith and trust in him is next to nothing and anyone can speak shit and influence you against him.
Also, what makes you think that even if you do have sex, he won't cheat? What exactly do you think married men do with their mistresses?
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reader, haileyhall +, writes (24 December 2017):
haileyhall is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don’t think he would ever do anything with a student , it’s all girls his age , old classmates or just girls on his friends list on Facebook that are commenting.
We don’t really talk about sex, he have a few times but not a lot. Basically before we started dating we talked about it and that was it. Once over the summer we went to a party when I went to visit him and when we we’re messinga round we kinda talked about it and he jokingly asked if I would she ready soon.
We see each other twice a month usually. He is driving here Christmas night and we are spending the rest of his winter break together
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (24 December 2017):
 I think there is more to this than just what family and friends say. You ACTUALLY think that these ELEMENTARY kids and women who gush over him online will automatically make him want to cheat?
I think the DISTANCE is more likely to make him want to see what else is out there. LDR's rarely work out because of the lack of intimacy (not necessarily sex). But it CAN work out if you two keep good contact, visit each other and are able to communicate what you both want for the future and from each other.
I don't think YOU having sex with him would stop him from cheating IF... he is thinking of cheating. If he is ready to wait for you for a year, I think it really doesn't matter WHAT your friends think.
And no, not all guys cheat.
You two need to talk about this ELEPHANT in the room. Sex.
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