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Wife keeps cheating on me... How can I get her to see how I feel??

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Question - (6 May 2006) 7 Answers - (Newest, 28 November 2013)
A male , anonymous writes:

love my wife for 20yrs but she keeps on having affairs and i have child that is not mine.she goes on nights out and am very lucky if she comes home.did it before and found her at it with someone else.but keep staying with her.i am a lorry driver so i am away quite a lot,which doesnt help.if i go for divorce lose her the house and everything.got three kids one of which is totally on my side help

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A male reader, ManhoodGuru United States +, writes (28 November 2013):

You gotta be willing to take the hit bro, better to start over than to be stuck in a loveless relationship

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008):

i can understand this man's predicament my wife has cheated on me on at least four occasions i have confronted her each time she begged for forgiveness the first time and it was extremely traumatic and required two years for me to come to terms with i desperately wanted to leave her but it meant losing my young child and all my possessions and at thirty five it was difficult to start over again just recently she has cheated again i am now forty and simply feel spent and i can't understand why she is hurting me and our relationship this time she actually threatened to get rid of me if i didn't put up and shut up or she would have me removed from our home i just want to leave but i have no where i can go as i have no savings and the money i earn simply goes towards feeding and clothing the family and paying the bills

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2006):

Hello

I am not one to give advise. I was married for 20 + years and all my wife did was cheat on me. We have kids and at one time she even moved in with another man. When she came back she was pregneant. I don't really know if the child was mine but I raised him as my own. Now he is 20yrs old and I am very proud to call him my son. However, the affairs never stoped and I worked and supported my/our family bymyself for most of those years. I finally had enough of the humiliation and pain. I took a job in another country. I followed this up later with a divorce.

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A male reader, iamsoscrewedup333 +, writes (11 May 2006):

ummmm, hello, LEAVE HER !! You say you "love her" but she obviously does not love you or she would not hurt you like this.

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A male reader, iamsoscrewedup333 +, writes (8 May 2006):

I agree, she is doing it because you don't seem to be making her pay any kind of consequence. You should either, lay it down and say if she does it again you are leaving (and actually leave if she does) or leave now and tell her the only way you will come back is if she proves to you that she will only be with you. I don't know how you can deal with the fact taht this is going on and you are doing nothing about it! Grow a spine!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2006):

You should not put up with this situation any longer. I even do not believe that trying to talk to her would be of any benefit. Once cheater... Always a cheater.

... And don't forget... SHE is doing it because YOU LET HER DO IT. She knows that when she comes home you are there and everything will be fine. Very simple. Think about it and move out or leave. You deserve better.

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A female reader, bonym United Kingdom +, writes (7 May 2006):

bonym agony auntI am so sorry to say this but your wife is not a nice person at all. Marriage is a God given blessing and if all she can do is sleep with other men, she is simply no good. She has a problem, she is insecure and lacks self esteem. Why on earth are you putting up with this? Do you think its right that the woman you lay next to in bed, is having sexual relationships with other men, its evil and wrong. Infedelity is dispicable, I know the mess it causes in relationships thats why at the moment I know that even if I told the married guy I have feelings for how I felt I could NEVER EVER have the audacity to sleep with him, its wrong. I know you are worried about the house, but you cant stay with an unfaithful woman like this, she has no respect for you or herself and you deserve better. xXX

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