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Why would this guy flirt with me and then tell my husband things bad about me?

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Question - (28 August 2012) 3 Answers - (Newest, 28 August 2012)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hey everyone, I have had a huge crush on the guy next door for the past year. A day doesn't pass that I don't think about him. I know he has the same feelings for me too. The thing is we both had someone in our lives before living with. But I broke up with my spouse and he juss got back with his. I still go to see my spouse juss so that I can see my neighbor and see how he is doing. My spouse to told me that my neighbor came to him saying that I am flirty and how my spouse should take my kids away from me and how he is gonna refer him to a lawyer and everything. My spouse again called me and told me this guy told him his girlfriend saw me with a guy, who was actually my uncle.My spouse had me on speaker when this was all going on. Can someone tell me please what's going on. He would always be flirting with me and always staring at me and stuff. I don't understand why he would be saying these things. what should I do?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (28 August 2012):

Honeypie agony auntThat neighbor doesn't give a rats behind about you. He doesn't like you AT ALL. JUST look at his actions.

Some guys will flirt with anything with a pulse, as long as the other person flirts back. It makes them feel like they are "all that and a bag of chips". However, they JUDGE women (specially married) who flirts back. He flirted with you with an ULTERIOR motive (most likely to get you in bed) and he thinks you think JUST like him, hence the judging.

The fact that you have been "crushing" on him, kind of shows that you were rather thoughtless in this.

Met your husband elsewhere and ignore the nasty neighbor.

Not to be cruel, but I think it's rather pathetic that you visit your FAMILY just to see that piece of crap.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2012):

There's always risk involved when you attempt to play around with more than on person at a time, and often it doesn't pay off as you've found out now.

I don't know why the neighbor would show signs of being interested then back off and lay all the blame on you, but I would suggest if you don't want to be with your spouse any longer, then you need to go down the proper channels, and also forget about that neighbor because its not going to happen between you two.

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A female reader, Abella United States +, writes (28 August 2012):

Abella agony auntCUT this former neighbor from your mind completely. Look away if you happen to see him. Stop even saying 'hi'.

This nasty neighbour just wants to make trouble for you.

What a base patheric trouble maker.

Do not acknowledge his existence.

if you still want to see your husband (just your husband0 then meet him for a coffee at another place. or invite him to pick up the children from your home and spend a little time talking things over with him.

But visiting your husband just so you can see this pathetic neighbor? That has to stop.You do not need a SNAKE in your life. No, strike that, the neighbor is lower than a SNAKE.

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