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anonymous
writes:Hey everyone....thanks for all your great advice in the past. I'm a sophomore in college and my bf of four years goes to school very close by. He is not that happy w/his school but wants the degree from there as he is half way through. He spends a lot of time at my school and pretty much lives in my suite and we get along great. He is always holding my hand, hugging, kissing etc. no matter where we are. Clearly no issues w/PDA I am just as mushy. I went home for a four day semester break and he went back to his campus. I made most of the calls and he was nice, but somewhat distant . He was not as sweet and loving and on the last night we got into a terrible fight on the phone. He was mean and rude and not at all the way he is when we are together. He said he didn't have time to talk to me every two seconds. When I got back he was all apologies and things are back to normal, but I still wonder what is up. Could there be something going on at his campus that I don't know about since I don't spend any time on his campus? I am a trusting person, but I don't want to be stupid. Why would someone be that different from one day to the next?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): I am hopeless and putting across how i feel completely on the telephone. He may of been put under pressure, got the answer wrong, got flustered or anything. I know i used to live over 200 miles from one bloke and we used to communicate on the phone. If he wasnt all bubbly i was worried, if he was too bubbly i was also worried that he was seeing someone else and they were making him like this. Phones are never the same as being face to face. All i am saying is that you shouldnt read too much into it. Maybe spend some time on his campus instead of around yours. Get to know his roomates and friends. You could of caught him on an off night, while missing you, he said all the wrong things, you picked it up wrong, an arguement pursued. I know cos i have been there and ended up hating the person i loved two minutes ago. Please dont be too hasty. Give him another chance.
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reader, Sweet-thing  + ♥, writes (25 October 2007):
 He's probably under some stress. I wouldn't put too much concern into it just yet, but keep an eye on his behavior and observe his patterns. He may be slightly depressed or have bipolar disorder if he continues to exhibit severe mood swings. Only time will tell. But don't freak out over one incident. We all have our moods and our bad days. He may have just been having one that's all. As couples grow closer, they do have to learn to deal with each other's moods because no one stays "happy" all the time, especially when under stress, and even if he's generally lovey-dovey most of the time, there will be days when he's acts like a total jerk. Don't panic. He's probably normal.
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