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anonymous
writes:My ex and i broke up about 9 months ago and we go to the same uni. On Friday, I was out with my friends and I was dancing and everyone started circling me, including his friends and I looked back and realised him coming up behind me to try and dance with me. I pushed him away and he seemed so shocked. I just elbowed him and was like move move!! And my friends just guarded him off. I cut contact with him straight after the break up but there was a time in december when I saw him out clubbing and he was telling me he missed me and stuff. Told me i look good and tried to kiss me (neither of us were drunk) and we spent the next day together (we just chilled. Nothing sexual) . He kept stroking my hair and kissing my forehead. Making reference to being back in touch, asking if i could unblock him, talking about how much he enjoyed time we spent together, saying he'd line to talk about the future. However, he didnt contact me after that and i saw him a week later, he actually walked past me and he definately saw me but I stopped him and asked him. He was just like I'm over thinking. I asked him to just tell me if it was a drunk night, he said it was a drunken night but he wanted to speak to me that night. So I just walked away. Didn't speak again. Why do you think he did this? I feel so annoyed that he thinks he can just come and do that when he's been so hurtful. He didn't even say hi to me or anything prior. Smh
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 March 2016):
 He wants sex from you. So far you have done all the right things, now just keep doing what you are doing and be thankful that he is out of your life.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (7 March 2016):
 He's just testing the waters to see if there is still any spark left. Obviously there is none so just go on about your business and forget him. Don't overthink this. He's a guy trying to get laid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2016): Exes do everything they can to keep you confused and in suspended-animation. They want to freeze you in the past, while they get a head-start in moving on. It's an ego-trip, where they're hoping you don't find someone before they do.
I'm happy you have a good support-system of friends, and that you resisted his attempts. Just chilling together is a bad idea; because with a little work, he'll break-down your defenses. You'll end-up having post-breakup sex. That will screw-up your mind. He's working you kiddo.
Keep your guard up. Avoid him at all costs and keep his ass blocked. He was hurtful in the past, and that rarely changes. He's protecting his ego and reputation among his buddies. His main objective is to regain control over your feelings and emotions. You're progressing well. Out with your friends, having fun, and getting over him. He isn't happy for you at all. He wants to undo your progress.
Resist temptation at all costs. Hang this advice on the mirror in the bathroom, next to your dresser, and on the refrigerator. Stay strong, girlfriend. Your ex is being a player right now. Turning on the charm and playing on your emotions. Hang several of our responses all over to remind yourself.
Good luck, sweetheart!
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