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Why would he lie about who he is?

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Question - (14 July 2017) 8 Answers - (Newest, 21 July 2017)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I met this guy online and we've been talking for six months now. I'm in the US and he's in Canada. We ve been texting and video chatting almost every day and he says that he's falling for me, I'm his dream girl and he wants me to be his girlfriend.

He told me his first and last name but says he doesn t use any social media. He has a unique last name and I looked him up by that on fb and found out that he has a different first name, doesn't live anywhere near where he told me and has a girlfriend. I decided to test him and ask him questions about where he is from, if he started dating anyone etc and told him that if he wasn t honest, I would not forgive him and he still wouldn't confess. Why is he lying to me if he swears that he cares about me so much??

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (21 July 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntOff course he doesn't care about you, he is bored so chatting to random women online while is girlfriend is out. Now you really need to block him and move on. He will probably find some other women to fool but you need to remove yourself from the situation.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2017):

The social media is full of liars who lie about their name,age,marital status,religion,looks,color,occupation,nationality,financial standing and many many more other aspects...

Wht do they do that? Because they are bored at best or they have othed evil intentions.So don't take anything on the SM seriously.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (15 July 2017):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntAssuming this account is definitely his and not belonging to a brother or other family member, he is having a bit of fun with you. Pity his poor girlfriend and just cut him off without explanation and block him.

Then go out and meet someone in real life.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy + , writes (15 July 2017):

CindyCares agony aunt Because he does not ? Not necessarily just because a perfect stranger met on line tells you big, romantic words, that means that these words are true. Talk is cheap.

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A female reader, Miss.Cupid United States +, writes (15 July 2017):

Miss.Cupid agony auntHe seems bored and is entertaining not only you but probably also other women that he shouldn't while in a relationship.

This is why I don't trust any online talking and dating, you can't ever really trust a person. If I were you I would stop wasting your time trying to get your questions answered, but you already know the answers yourself. Good job on looking it up yourself ! Don't have him play you a fool. Move on.

Good Luck.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (15 July 2017):

Honeypie agony auntWhy? Because he is bored and YOU, dear OP is the entertainment.

Instead of wondering about his actions... Think about your own. You NOW know that he has a partner, that he has lied about things that are not THAT important or necessary to lie about (such as his first name and where he actually lives) those are lies to KEEP you from finding him... but the dumbass didn't even consider that liars are easily caught when using social media...

So, dear OP... WHY haven't you just block and deleted him?

He isn't worth your time or effort. and he isn't available either. Or trustworthy. Or honest.

Kick him to the curb, move on.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2017):

He's lying to you because he can. Online you can be whoever you want to be and fool people like you. I don't mean to sound harsh, but he doesn't care about you. He's just playing with you. And why on earth would you forgive him for stringing you along, lying to you and already having a girlfriend? Would you forgive him if you had met him in person and were dating him and found all this out? I hope not!

I don't know whether or not you met him on a dating site, but if you are using dating sites to meet men you should be looking closer to home. It's much better to meet in person, talk in person, date and do things together, really get to know each other so you can see if the two of you are compatible. That's a real relationship. You should block him and don't let yourself fall into this kind of trap again.

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom + , writes (15 July 2017):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntMore important question: why haven't you dropped him already?

You know he's bad news and lying, so block him and find someone who isn't.

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