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writes:So almost seven months ago, around easter I broke up with my ex because our relationship had too many people involved trying to cause problems on top of us already having our own. He then randomly messaged me in august just saying sup? I tried to be nice but he started hitting on me then bringing up old problems from the relationship that were honestly my fault. He felt my apology was complete crap and that I didnt feel bad for what I did. But I was beating myself up about it inside, I got tired of it and just blocked his ass but forgot to on my phone and he sent a message saying he felt that I was basically saying he had no right to be upset but that was never my intention I was just sick of everyone throwing it up in my face all the time. Anyways I took awhile to think about it then at the end of oct I messaged him and explained the nature of my intentions were merely apologetic, that he had every right to be mad and even hate me but instead he said he forgave me and that he really did want to be friends but I saw his profile said in a relationship, told him honestly I dont want to mess up anything you got going on right now in your life I just wish you the best and sorry but maybe its not a good idea for us to be friends now that you have moved on (my presence tends to make other women uncomfortable so I try to just stay away from those situations) and I hope he does well with his life, then he changes it from in a relationship to single! Right then, I caved and said I change my mind we can be friends (he really didnt question it much I change my mind quite a bit) all because im just so damn curious to know why would he change it as soon as I said something? like I cant comprehend this at all! Been wrapping my brain around it for awhile but I guess I dont have the nerve to ask him yet cause I have no clue what hes going to say and I dont know if I really want to hear it, any helpful thoughts? anyone?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2014): I agree with Olderthandirt - Facebook can mess up your mind - try not to dwell on things too much & just move on best you can!
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (18 November 2014):
 I'd like to add to what Honeypie has offered. she is wise so follow her advice,AND get of of FB once and for all. It will drive you nuts trying to figure out why people do or say stuff. THe anxiety created with FB is way too heavy a load for you to carry around. FB is grest to view pics of family or find long lost friends but otherwise it's just another way to drive you crazy.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (18 November 2014):
 I think there are times where you can keep an ex in your life after a break up, but for the most part I don't think it's a good idea for either person. It's a constant reminder of what went wrong.
My guess is his "In a relationship status" was bogus to see if that got a rise out of you.
And my guess is that he feels you OWE him something because of whatever crappy actions and choices you made while with him. The truth is, you DO NOT owe him squat. You gave him some closure with your "I'm sorry" and if that helps YOU as well, good, but if he starts harping on the past again I would suggest you cut the contact, because that RELATIONSHIP is over and done it. It didn't work for whatever reason, no need to re-hash it over and over. You OWNED your actions, no need for ANYONE to further beat you up about the past.
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (18 November 2014):
 Why do you care what he has to say? Seems like you still have hopes you two can work things out, and you want to see where it goes.My advise, take it or leave it...NEVER go backwards, always forward. Never go back to an ex. They are an ex for a reason. They help to teach you things about yourself, and to make better relationships in the future, not to go back and re-live the pain and suffering. You are not married or have kids, so you owe him nothing, not even an explanation.Trouble was in a a relationship...then you came calling, and trouble went to being single in a heart beat. What does that tell you??? Misery loves company. What kind of company do you want in your life?
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