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Why would a work friend suddenly turn cold, and also show 'distrust' in me?

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Question - (27 May 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 27 May 2010)
A male United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

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This happened many years ago at my old job, but it still bothers me every so often.

I was an associate (cashier, stock, cleaning, inventory, etc.) at this store, and there was this assistant manager that everyone liked. We were basically all friends with him, and we got the job done, right on time, and had one of the highest customer satisfaction ratings in that store's district. While there were several employees, usually, we worked as a pair on weekdays and have three on the weekends.

When working cashier, even though it was against company policy, we would share our registers to make it easier if one was helping out a customer, and the other was free. This was at the exception of the manager (who would've flipped) and an employee we didn't trust. At night, we would count/balance our drawers in front of each other, so neither knew we were stealing. For nearly a year and a half, everything went fine. I, along with another coworker, a girl, were high school students, and everyone knew we'd be leaving soon as we move away to college. She was going to leave in June, I in August.

Then, one day, I go to log onto his register to help a customer, and he changed the password. He said, "I know that," and logged on for me. Never gave it to me. However, the other female co-worker, he gave the password to her. He would never give me the password, only allowing her or himself to log on for me, until he stopped sharing the register all together. Its like he suddenly didn't trust me. He somewhat started acting a little colder around me, instead of his warm and friendly self.

I didn't say anything at the time, although it bothered me; but I also knew that my time was running out, as I quit a week before I left for college.

Why would he suddenly out of the blue change his attitude toward me, but not another employee? Note that I never did anything bad, and I never had any problems up to that point.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2010):

Just reading this makes me guess that there was a lot more to the story than you are aware. I wouldn't worry too much about it.

Perhaps the assistant manager had a relationship with the other girl? Maybe the manager started to crack down more on policy, and the other girl wasn't able to accept not knowing the new password and therefore pressured the assistant into reluctantly giving it to her? Maybe there was a problem somewhere along the line, and they just had to give the password to less people... and knowing that you were going to college soon they skipped over you?

Try to remember that there are always multiple forces influencing the world around you. Just because you can't see them doesn't mean they aren't there. I doubt this had anything to do with you, so don't let it get to you! If you were as good of an employee as you say you were, then that's all that matters.

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