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Why would a man not talk about his girlfriend and keep her a secret?

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Question - (22 July 2012) 7 Answers - (Newest, 23 July 2012)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I would like to know why a guy would not talk about his girlfriend around you. Ever. If you ask him a question about her, he will answer with one word, go silent and change the subject. He goes out of his way to tell you that he is alone on a Friday night. He always says what he is doing, not what they are doing. The relationship is a few months old but he acts as if she does not even exist...like he is single. Is this not strange? I think it is.

Any opinions?

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A female reader, Basschick Australia +, writes (23 July 2012):

Basschick agony auntHe's a player! And I feel sorry for his girlfriend. Ask yourself if you would appreciate being treated like this? I would not give him anymore attention.

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (23 July 2012):

Danielepew agony auntI agree with Honeypie. You know for a fact that he has a girlfriend. If you are the kind of woman who won't accept dating a man who is in a relationship, then he's toast with you already, and he knows it. Not talking about his girlfriend does not seem to serve any purpose.

Are you interested in dating him? I recommend you don't.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (23 July 2012):

Honeypie agony auntEither he feels that she is NONE of your business or he isn't really that into her.

There can be many reason why a guy isn't gushing to other females about their GF.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (22 July 2012):

Poor girl. She doesn't mean a thing to him, and it sounds like he's using her. He doesn't sound like a nice guy to be honest.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (22 July 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntShe's not important to him... he hides her so when someone else better comes along he can have at the new girl.

if you are the girlfriend dump him... he's just biding his time...

if you are someone who knows him and are considering dating him... I'd think twice about it... what's to say he won't do the same thing to you.

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A female reader, Abella United States +, writes (22 July 2012):

Abella agony auntHi

He may not see her as a long term girfriend and she may just be a fling.

Or she may already be in a relationship and he does not want others to know that he is seeing someone who is married or in a relationship.

Or she is just his FWB even if she does not know this.

Or, as the previous poster said, he is shy. Or he is keeping his options open in case he finds someone else who has something better on offer.

Most likely he is a player who doesn't want to be boxed in as 'taken' if he reveals the extent of his involvement with his regular girlfriend.

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A female reader, sammi star United Kingdom +, writes (22 July 2012):

sammi star agony auntHe obviously doesn't want to acknowledge that he's even in a relationship therefore leaving himself open to dating other women by making himself seem available. Someone to steer clear of I'd say

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