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writes:After a day of knowing him, his mum apparently knew about me and he was wanting me to be introduced to his auntie when I saw him that night(as she was also in the area). Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2015): Another possibility is that he is very bonded to his mother, to an unhealthy degree. OR he may just be very proud to have a woman in his life and be very naive, as another respondent pointed out. But it can be a fine line between the two.
When I started going out with my ex partner, we were both young artists and quite unconventional I suppose. But he said, very early on, that I should go on holiday with his mother; I wanted to go away but had no-one to go with.
I found this totally weird as a suggestion - I'd never even met her - but back then we and our friends were, I suppose fairly pretentiously, trying to live a Bohemian life, so I guess this 'red flag' passed me by.
Anyway, turned out that he really, really had an Oedipal type bond with his mother and it caused our relationship to fail in the end. I never went on holiday with her, we never even got on as people because she was so controlling of her son and kept interfering in our relationship.
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reader, CattyCat  +, writes (10 March 2015):
 Tell him you think things are moving a bit fast.
On the one hand it's nice that he want's you to see his family, but on the other hand, it's so early, you don't even know if this will go anywhere yet. Plus you don't want them to form an opinion of you, before you've even gotten your own bearings on the relationship. Plus he will listen to them, but take what you say with a pinch of salt. May sound awful, but christ, after a day? A bit much.
Tell him how it all made you feel and ask him if you can slow things down if that's what you want
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2015): I would guess he has not met too many women, or never really had a girlfriend. His family may be pressuring him to get a girlfriend; and he needs to show them that he's trying, to get them to lighten-up or lay-off.
If you're not quite ready, let him know. You hardly know him, and you don't have any obligation to meet his family so soon.
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