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writes:why would a guy say he "used to fancy me" but keep sending me mixed signals? like one night he came up to me and the bar and put his arms around me..and sometimes he asks to hold my hand, looks me in the eyes and bes really touchy feely.. ive been so upset and confused for months now as I dont understand him..its like sometimes he acts like a boyfriend but wants to stay "best friends." he said he would never reject me but it was because i told him i was a virgin..and he doesnt feel good enough for me to give something so special to him and that i might regret it..i think I mean a lot to him and he considers me very special..but i wish he would stop with the mixed signals.. do you think i should wait for him or move on? My heart beats fast when he talks to me or puts his arm around me.. i dont like flirting with other guys coz all i think about is him
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah it does seem a bit odd..
but why would he say he doesnt see me in that way? and sometimes we completely avoid each other when we go out :( its sad that i feel like im trying to glue this friendship back together.. he just blows hot and cold and we have silly fights..sometime he ignores me. its like mind games. I am not sure HE himself knows exactly what is going on inside of his own head.. for example.. he told me he sees me as an amazing friend.. then he got very drunk and sat on my knee and put his forehead towards mine (as if maybe to try and kiss me?=S ) im sick of analyzing his hot and cold behaviour.. its like one minute he flirts.. then its 'just friends' then to the point where we ignore each other
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reader, Mushgirl  +, writes (22 November 2008):
 Is this right... you fancy this guy... and he fancies you... but neither of you will admit it?
When people say "I used to fancy you", it usually either means "I used to fancy you and I still do, but I don't want to admit it", or it means "I used to fancy you but I don't (much) any more, although I wouldn't say no".
Basically I think he really likes you, but he's scared of being rejected so he doesn't want to come straight out with "I HAVE BEEN OBSESSED WITH YOU FOR YEARS", in case it scares you off.
If I were you I'd flirt with him like mad til he does the whole touchy-feely think again, and when he does I'd kiss him. But that's just me.
Honestly I think he really likes you. x
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