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writes:Ok! This is a dumb question(To me) But what does it mean if your best friend(Is a Girl) but doesn't want to introduce you to her boyfriend(I'm a girl too) She's been dating this guy for almost a month, and he's in the hospital or at least was and I was like "hey, I'll go with you." You know to visit him and she liked totally ignored what I said and this isn't the first time it happened.One day..I was like "OMG, I'm your bestfriend..Why haven't I met him yet..?" And she ignored it! What does this mean..?
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reader, Devilish Angel +, writes (20 January 2008):
 There's a few reasons I think would be wrong. First, she could think that you wouldn't approve of him. Second, she could be secretly insecure about her looks/self and scared that he would fall for you/want to do you if you guys met. Third, she doesn't trust you to not go after her man. Fourth, SHE'S NOT READY to let you(her best friend and a very important person in her life) to meet with the guy because she wants to be sure that he is 'the one' and that he's important enough. Fifth, she could be secretly lesbian and ashamed to let you meet her girlfriend or there is no significant other at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just want to say thanks for everyone who has given me advice and anyone else who wants to give me advice..You guys are awesome!
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reader, hello1  +, writes (19 January 2008):
 My freind wouldn't let me meet her boyfreind, my other freind met him but not me. She wouldn't even show me a picture of him! anyway once I left school I found out why, her boyfreind was 36years old and was having sex with her when she was only 15. I'm not saying this is why your freind dosen't want you too meet him, but if I was you I keep asking her why she's so scared to let him see you.
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reader, Neboraic +, writes (19 January 2008):
there could be loads of reasons for this. Ask her.
I personally prefer to keep parts of my life seperate, feel uncomfortable when two people im close with are in the same room. I act differently around both of them but cant when theyre both there.
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reader, O Connor  + ♥, writes (19 January 2008):
 maybe she is afraid that you wont approve of him? she may see things in him that she knows no one else will. other things could be that she is insecure and is worried that he may either prefer you or not approve of you. talk to her and tell her that any guy thats good enough for her is good enough for you and you just wanna be involoved in that part of her life. once she sees that you are supportive of her decisions, im sure that she will feel comfortable introducing him to you. about the hospital thing - im sure she just wanted to spend some alone time with him.
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reader, Enzian  +, writes (19 January 2008):
 Hi
There is maybe an other reason: it just could be, that she needs some time for herself and for meeting this boy on her own, because she is uncertain what's going on. To much of interesst of other people could render her uncertain. (I was like this as well, without an obviously known reason).
So don't worry about it too much and just let her introduce to him as soon as she is ready for it and just don't mention it anymore.
It's hard for you, but hope this helps!
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reader, rcn + ♥, writes (19 January 2008):
 Either jealousy, or possibly her boyfriend is someone that she approves of, but doesn't think other might. I remember when I was younger. All though I really don't think this issue came up much, since being in a smaller town with only one high school. If I dated a real nice girl "proper" There were some parents I never had the opportunity to meet. I was in a hard rock band. Had hair to the middle of my back, wore leather clothing, spikes, zebra skin shirts, etc. If I were to date someone completely opposite, there may have been a disapproval from their friends. Let her know, you're friends and who ever she is with, you're supportive because she's your friend and you repsect her decisions on who to date.
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