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*yfakename
writes:Me and my girlfriend have been together for over 4 years now, and she has only went down on me 3 times out of 4 years! On top of that she met this guy, ("Who got his ass beat by the way." ) any way, she hung out with him just 4 times. Then on the 4th day at his house she sucked him off. This happened over a year ago it doesn't bother me no more that she cheated really. But it drives me nuts wondering why she absolutely will not give me oral. She always says she will but when it comes down to it there's always a excuse not a oops I forgot. Simply because there has been an excuse every time for the whole time we've been together. Any one have any advice, tips, or feedback is all appreciated, thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): She won't do it more than once a year for you, but she'll cheat on you and do it for him within first week?
The message is clear. She took his enjoyment more seriously than she takes yours.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (22 March 2011):
 If after 4 years she isn't going down on you, I don't think she ever will either. Prepare for more years with no oral. Unless, of course, sitting down with her for a heart to heart chat about it will help. Obviously she isn't telling you the truth about why she wont go down on you. Perhaps she doesn't even know it herself why she isn't keen on it. But it still deserves to be explored. Think if you can continue with her or not if the sex life goes on as it has these past 4 years. How important is this to you, really? Does she please you in other ways? Why is it important to you, what does it give you, and why do you want her to go down on you?Map out your own thoughts concerning this, then talk to her and tell her everything. Then let her have some time to gather her thoughts on it and have another talk. Is it possible to work out a compromise? If she honestly just "forgets" then she shouldn't mind a reminder for example. Maybe you can make it into a game to spice up the sex life, buy some of those dice that name a place of the body, a sexual act, and a location. They can be fun, and chances are at some point it will lead to oral. Perhaps a harmless introduction to it is just what she needs. But, before you can know the solution, you must understand the problem. And that wont happen until you talk to her and get her to open up to you about this and communicate how she feels.
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reader, Myfakename +, writes (22 March 2011):
Myfakename is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAny help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): you need to ask her about it. also make sure youre very clean down there. Not meaning to be rude of course. Maybe if youve washed in the morning and its evening by the time you get together just ensure you have a little freashen up you never know could make all the difference.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): First of all, you mustn't force her to do anything she doesn't want. Don't be selfish.Ok to answer your question: maybe you taste weird. It happened to me 2 times and it's not good, beleive me. Before sex, wash yourself and let her know you're really clean. I'm sorry if it offended you but i write just my thoughts.. Hope it helped somehow, enjoy.
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