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writes:My boyfriend cheated on me twice with the same girl, we broke up after the second cheating occurred.He dated her for three years. they broke up after a big fight. then we ended up getting back together. How do learn to trust him. he still make contact with her, He bought her a car because she has bad credit. it is in my boyfriends name. He goes to her travel agent ever month to pick up the car payment. I am no happy with that. he also just booked travel arrangements threw her travel agency for a trip for he and his son. i saw the email from her on accident. why wont he stop making contract with her? Dont know what to do.
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reader, ladyangler19335 +, writes (22 February 2009):
Ladies my pain is only a few days old. I met my bf online. He had been divorced 4 yrs when I met him. We've been together for a year and half now. His X wife remarried someone that she says swept her off her feet only to find out that he's not the person he said he was. My bf has two teenagers with her. She lives 6 hours away and he see's the kids several times a year. She told my bf recently that she wants him back and wants to give it another chance. He has been honest with me about it. It's been bothering me and so I came right out and asked him what he's planning on doing. He said this isn't easy for him.......because he loves me and has never stopped loving her. He says he miss's being a father to his kids and wants to give it a try. We both cried and I ended up leaving without saying goodbye while he was upstairs. I haven't called him or taken his calls. He left me a message this morning telling me that the bass masters classics was on ...we're both very much into fishing and would watch fishing shows sat and sunday mornings together in bed. His X hated him fishing. Anyway he called this morning and before he said goodbye he said I love you....I mean that. Then yesterday he sent me an erotic pic of himself said he was thinking of me.....Why is he doing this?
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reader, Hermione  +, writes (11 February 2009):
Just a note on one of the comments - the son he has isn't with this woman (or at least it wasn't mentioned if that's the case) so there is no justified reason for him to keep in such regular, close contact with her. He really doesn't sound over her and if he left you once, he's likely to do it again. Don't give him the opportunity and leave him before he leaves you. Before you get hurt, AGAIN!
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reader, heartbroken . x  +, writes (9 February 2009):
im only 14 but it sounds like he still has feelings for hergiving him more and more chances makes him think he can get away with it ,you could talk to him first , ask him why does he keep talking to her and tell him you dont like itgive him time maybe he will stop and then he will come back round hope it helps Heartbroken . xP.s sorry im only 14 , But i just wanted to help :) x
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reader, nokutenda  +, writes (9 February 2009):
l think its best to let him go. he still loves her that's why he keeps contacting her.he has to know its either you or her, he can't have both.
l agree with sappygirl that he loves her more than you. save yourself from more heartache and move on
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): To the woman below me, I don't think that you noticed that the man has a son with this woman, therefore he can't make this choice.sorry honey but your gonna have to deal with this other lady, he has a kid with her, he probably got her a car because his kid needed it. This woman is gonna be in his life forever, and its not his fault. You do however need to talk to him about it, but do it gently because if you don't your gonna end up looking selfish.
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reader, sweet808 +, writes (9 February 2009):
Whether he chooses to admit it or not he Is still in love with her!my boyfriend had a car under his name for an ex and he was not picking payments up anywhere! She sent the payments under his account number directly to company and did so for years with No contact what so ever. If she didn't pay the bank would obviously call him up. And he can go to cheap tickets.com before gettin deals through miss.X
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (9 February 2009):
 sorry to tell you but you can't make him stop contacting her. I think he loves her more than you. He is disrespecting you and the relationship.
By you taking him back after you knew he cheated on you with this girl... he knows that you will always take him back and you're not going anywhere. he has a hold on you and you love him too much to let him go...so you'll take anything. Most woman would not want to be any man's second choice..and tell him to take a hike when he came crawling back. You could give him an ultimatum. her or me. But honestly... why did you take him back. its obviously he hasn't changed.
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