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*issaqua777
writes:Hey! Basically this guy he looks at me more than is socially acceptable like the proper full head turn, not the sort of look that you would imagine. He's shown other little signs he likes me but we've never spoken, he looks at me with eyebrows raised prolongs eye-contact and once he like rushed halfway across the room just to open the frickin door lol and I've observed him. He's not the shy type so why won't he approach me?? I'm very nervous in these situations therefore I often end up signalling "closed gestures" like avoiding eye contact floding arms e.g. however I'm told I blush like CRAZY when I see him and I'm pretty sure he knows I like him, why won't he approach me? Is it because of these hostile gestures making it harder not being open? There have been a few times he might have had the opportunity to talk to me but I don't know. Thanks for any advice :D:D xx
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reader, missaqua777 +, writes (4 March 2009):
missaqua777 is verified as being by the original poster of the question ok thanks a lot i know i should be more open just feel foolish i suppose but better than losing him, agian thanks i will talk to him very soon :D:D xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): just cos he doesnt seem shy doesnt mean he isnt.
im a guy, and everyone thinks when they first meet me that i wouldnt be shy. im very outgoing with my friends, usually the centre of atention on nights out and to look at me u would never guess my personality. im 6'2", very muscular and shaven head. on first impression everyone assumes im either "a bit of a boy" or a "player" or even an aggressive guy. but im actually one of the shyest people u could ever meet. i often get signals that girls are really interested, but unless im totally drunk i never make the first move and just pass up oppertunity. if u like him, which u obviousley do, u should definatley try and make the first move. u may both be very happy you did. these days its just as common for a girl to make the first move anyway.
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reader, MyDestiny  +, writes (2 March 2009):
 believe it or not guys are shy andnervous in these situations too... if he wont make the first move then you approach him, he might not look like the shy type to you but everybodies different (dont judge a book by it's cover-lol)
so you take the chance and ask him hot, it seems that you guys have a connection so duel on that connection...
gudd luck and keep us posted
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reader, Plutonious +, writes (2 March 2009):
You just answered your own question. He is hesitant to talk to you or approach you because you give him this brick wall in between you two. Basically, he is intimidated by you.
So .... loosen up a bit. unfold those arms, make that smiling eye contact, and of course put a little smile on your face.
You just gotta look and feel approachable.
the next time he comes around, like holding the door for you again, Say "thank you" "Hey? whats up?"
You just got to keep IN MIND, that this is all NOTHING, this is easy. You are taking it too seriously that's why you keep closure.
just relax. let it all flow. don't refuse it.
I've said this before, to find an excuse to talk to him is if you have the same class together, ask him in a casual way "i need help with my homework, assignment, etc can you help me?"
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