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Why was it so easy for him to move on? He dumped me a year ago and I'm not over him.

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Question - (2 February 2014) 2 Answers - (Newest, 2 February 2014)
A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

My ex dumped me almost a year ago.

I'm still not over him.

I know I was the one being rejected so it takes a longer time for me to move on. He started dating again 3 months ago. I was sad and jealous to learn that he's with someone else. He told me I was once the most important woman in his life even more important than his own mother and we were supposed to get married 3 months before we broke up.

I don't understand why it's so easy for him to move on and how could he just completely forget about me since we had been together for years and planned to have a family together.

I was not only his girlfriend but his friend. I really can't accept the fact that someone who used to be so close to me just completely walked out of my life and will never ever be a part of my life anymore.

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A male reader, CMMP United States + , writes (2 February 2014):

It sounds to me like you're putting a lot of words into his mouth. The truth is, you really have no idea how he feels.

That being said, you two have been broken up for a long time. Time to stop thinking about him and move on.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2014):

I know this is a really hard time for you, of course you don't want to think about your ex with his new partner.

However, just because he has moved on, doesn't mean it was easy for him. He happened to find someone he liked, but he may still miss you. The thing is, it doesn't really matter--you two just weren't meant to be together. One day you'll find someone who won't ever want to leave you.

Also, you NEED to accept that he won't ever be a part of your life anymore. That will help you move on. If you haven't gone "no contact", you should do that ASAP.

Maybe one day you can be friends, but that should only happen if there are no lingering feelings, and you can be legitimately happy for him and a new partner (and vice versa).

Best of luck!! Things can only get better from here.

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