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Why isn’t she wearing her bra in this instance?

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Question - (21 March 2016) 13 Answers - (Newest, 24 March 2016)
A male Australia age 22-25, anonymous writes:

OK I don't mean to sound creepy or pervie, but what does it mean when my economics tutor at uni doesn't wear her bra when I was alone with her? Does she like me? Because during class in the morning I noticed her bra straps but later in the afternoon when I went to her office to discuss my assignment she was obviously not wearing any. I am sure because she was wearing the same sleeveless top which had thin straps and I noticed the bra was missing. And also because of the shape of her breasts but I don't want to go into details. I thought maybe she was tired and wanted to let it all hang out after classes but whenever we go in as a group I notice she wears her bra. She is about 5 years and older than me.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2016):

Should I confess that I have a crush on her? If I don't, I might never find out and I may remain obsessed with her. I just have one more year to graduation, so if it works out, I won't be doing anything illegal as I will no longer be a student and there will be no negative repercussions of us having a relationship. if she doesnt like me, then i can just move on. P/S: I think she looks better without a bra, really. I know most women look unflatteringly flat chested without one but she carries it well. She also looks good with short hair I know most girls don't. It is because she has really gorgeous features and green eyes it doesn't matter if she shaved her head. She looks sort of like Sinead O'Connor except she is much taller, elegant and sexier.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2016):

OK let's just forget the bra topic. I also think it doesn't mean anything. Probably the other guys were flirting with her hence she felt awkward going braless but for some reason she feels comfortable around me.

I do think she likes me but I am not sure in a romantic way or in a "big sister" manner.

I think it is because she is tall, about 5'10" she might be attracted to me as I am 6'5". She once asked me if she was too tall for a girl and I said no.

I remember when I flunked my first test because I was depressed when my girlfriend left me then she asked why I seemed so lost during classes so I said I was having troubled getting over the break up, and then she comforted me and said I was a good looking guy I'd find someone new soon.

When my grades improved she said she was proud of me. She never gives the students the same attention. Even some of my mates tease that this "old lady" has a crush on me. I used to think she was like a big sister to me but now maybe more.

What do you all think?

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States + , writes (23 March 2016):

Tisha-1 agony auntI think it's more of a concerned adult worried about a poorly performing student.

OP you need to focus on studies. Flunking a test because of a breakup isn't good.

Are you going to flunk the next test because you are dreaming of teacher?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2016):

OK let's just forget the bra topic. I also think it doesn't mean anything. Probably the other guys were flirting with her hence she felt awkward going braless but for some reason she feels comfortable around me.

I do think she likes me but I am not sure in a romantic way or in a "big sister" manner.

I think it is because she is tall, about 5'10" she might be attracted to me as I am 6'5". She once asked me if she was too tall for a girl and I said no.

I remember when I flunked my first test because I was depressed when my girlfriend left me then she asked why I seemed so lost during classes so I said I was having troubled getting over the break up, and then she comforted me and said I was a good looking guy I'd find someone new soon.

When my grades improved she said she was proud of me. She never gives the students the same attention. Even some of my mates tease that this "old lady" has a crush on me. I used to think she was like a big sister to me but now maybe more.

What do you all think?

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States + , writes (22 March 2016):

Tisha-1 agony auntIt means nothing whatsoever.

OP, she’s your economics tutor.

You’re reading way to much into bra/no bra, knowing name/not knowing name...

You are entering creepy stalker territory, time to exit. Take off the crush spectacles and focus on your studies.

This woman deserves to be allowed to do her job without being put at risk of losing it because of a crush of a student she’s tutoring.

P.S. Bras are annoying necessities for many women. I ditch the bra not to attract males around me but to get rid of the discomfort of straps and wires. I agree with jls022 that if she did actually like you back, she’d keep the bra on because that tends to make the “girls” look better.

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A female reader, miss frank United Kingdom +, writes (22 March 2016):

Ummm...you have a crush I believe and are hoping for some form of validation from us...its not happening. Stop stalking your teacher and considering why/when/how she wears her underwear, its creepy. Likes you? Doesn't like you? She knows your name? Doesn't know your name? Really, stop it. Get on with your studies or you'll end up with some sort of reputation or worse at this rate.

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A female reader, Aunty BimBim Australia +, writes (22 March 2016):

Aunty BimBim agony auntWell, there you go, she only goes braless when around you, or in the comfort of her own how, as your snooping and stalking has told you. There MUST be a special, flirty, c'mon message in her removing her bra, meant just for you ...

OR, if your stalking and snooping has shown she only goes braless at home or around you, it could mean she sees you in the same category as dear ole Granpa Joe or the dog.

Personally, I think you need to drop this line of thought and concentrate on your studies.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2016):

I am the guy who posted the question.

I realize that she wears her bra whenever other guys go to the office but not when it is only me around.

I stalked her Facebook pictures juat now and realize that yes - she doesn't like wearing a bra. She mostly goes braless when at home with her family and close female friends but puts one on for formal occasions such as work. So maybe she just feels comfortable and unthreatened by me.

She is rather fond of me. She remembers my name but not the other students. And she likes to chat with me. Surely this must mean something. Maybe she likes me in one way or another?

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (21 March 2016):

Danielepew agony auntDon't get any ideas. It's not about you.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway + , writes (21 March 2016):

chigirl agony aunt... It means she took off her bra for any number of reasons, and I highly doubt it has anything to do with you. Taking of your bra is NOT in the girls guide on how to get a guy. If she likes you, she would not show it in this manner. I don't know ANY girl who thinks this is the way to get a guy. It's not about you at all.

My guess is, she got tired of using it for some reason or other, a bra isn't the most comfortable thing to wear, and rather than fixate on her titties you might focus on your school work.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (21 March 2016):

Honeypie agony auntCould be one of the under wires came loose during class and she took it off afterwards. I tell you being poked by a small metal rod in your boobs is not a pleasant feeling.

Could be new detergent that makes her skin itch.

Could be she grabbed the wrong bra, one that was too small or too big and uncomfortable.

Could be that she, like 70% of women wears the wrong size and she can't WAIT to take it off after classes.

Maybe... like many other women she just HATES wearing a bra, but does wear one when giving lectures so the boys don't perv over her boobs.

So, sorry OP it probably doesn't have anything to do with you and ALL about comfort.

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A female reader, jls022 United Kingdom + , writes (21 March 2016):

I don't think it has anything to do with you. In fact, I think most women assume wearing a bra is more attractive to a man than not wearing one (it gives you a bit of 'lift') so if anything I'd suggest its likely that she doesn't like you in that way.

It's also a fact that bras are annoying and while most of the time it is bearable, some days it just reaches a point where it has to go. I'd suggest you focus more on your studies and less on your tutor's breasts.

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States + , writes (21 March 2016):

Fatherly Advice agony auntBecause it pinches and stabs and constricts and probably isn't a great fit, and she feels more comfortable without it.

It is most likely that it has nothing to do with you, but if you keep staring so much she will feel less comfortable around you and wear one more often.

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