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anonymous
writes:Prior to my wife having our daughter (now 6) e had a good sex life, now if we have sex it is just get it over with, i can't touch her the way i used to, foreplay is non existent. I want to be a good lover and husband but when i ask why she doesn't want me to touch her down below she says that she doesn't know why??
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reader, Annalisa +, writes (22 January 2008):
 Giving birth can be traumatic and certainly makes us feel we've changed hugely. There might be scarrs or the fact that she's loosened up a lot, so she probably feels ugly and unsexy. You could make sure you pay her lots of compliments out of the bedroom! Make sure she knows you still find her beautiful and sexy, and she might slowly let you back where you're no longer allowed.
When you try to understand why she's so shy, make it plain that you care and that you want to make love to her for her sake, not just for yourself. I'm sure that is the case, but she might not think so.
I hope I helped a little. Good luck!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (20 January 2008):
 It is possible that you wife is having a low self esteem and her body has changed and she may feel ugly and do not want you to touch there. Some women feel ashamed to tell you the reasons and you just have to accept that she does not like it. Period.
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