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anonymous
writes:my boyfriend and i havnt had sex in over 2 weeks and i dont know why. when he stays over we kiss but thats it and this morning he fingered me for a bit but then stopped. we see eachother twice a week and normally have sex at least once a week but i dont know why theres a sudden complete lack of interest. all he does is sleep and i know hes tired but im feeling really rejected now.hes insecure when it comes to sex and when we first got together he kept stopping during sex and i eventually asked him why and he said its cz i wasnt making any noise and it was a turn off so i plucked up to courage and i started making noise and things got better and we ended up having sex 3 times one afternoon but now it feels like we're just friends who kiss. the passion has suddenly gone and i really miss itwhat should i do or say to him without sounding like a nagging girlfriend or making him insecure? i dont want to feel rejected anymore
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): You don't see yourfriend that much so when you do meet up there should be lots of built up tension.
It sounds like he has a few serious underlying issues.
Try asking him why his interest has suddenly died. If you are in a good relationship you should be able to speak openly about what is bothering you.
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reader, Replacement  + ♥, writes (15 May 2008):
 Man... this guy needs therapy. He sounds ridiculously insecure about his sexual skills... it's sad to read, honestly.. stopping halfway because you weren't moaning enough? Maybe he's just seen too much porn and expects the woman to be gasping for air and screaming all the way through. You shouldn't have to fake noises just to make him feel confident enough to f*ck you.
Anyway, my suggestion is simple.... just seduce him... climb on top and do all the work... if he doesn't respond to that, then maybe he's just not interested anymore.
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reader, DiovanLestat + ♥, writes (15 May 2008):
 Like everything else you know the answers deep inside your self. Your boyfriend loves you, he dosen't cheat on you and I'll go out on a limb and say he treats you well and enjoys being with you. Sex has become infrequent. He's tired and slightly insecure about sex.
This is not an issue about your attractiveness, your ability to please, or from the information you have given a reflection of your relationship.
I don't know why your boyfriend is content with less passion in your relationship. Like you said he is probably tired. What you need to do is talk to him. You don't know what's going on, so I can't provide the advice you need. Talk to him, ask him what's going on in his head. Tell him you miss being sexual with him and you need to be intimate.
In most relationships the level of sexual passion always decreases after the honeymoon period. You want more sex, ask for it. He acts differently, ask him why. Communication is the basis of a good relationship. If you don't want to feel rejected, talk to him about what you want and what you need. He seems to care, give him a chance to help you make your relationship the best that it can be.
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reader, Cal_Love  +, writes (15 May 2008):
Hello,Well, it's kind of hard to figure exactly what the issue is because honestly it could be a number of things. But, you mentioned that he was insecure about sex when you first met up, so perhaps the problem is here. Maybe he is having performance anxiety? This can be a real downer for a guy and can cause a lot of stress. He could be over thinking it worried you aren't enjoying it, maybe he thinks he cums too fast. He might be unable to keep it hard because of this nervousness and then the problem is even worse. Just like you feel rejected maybe he feels rejected by you as well(whether he has reason to or not). So, if this is the issue then try to give him words of encouragement. Be open with him that there is no pressure and you love the way he makes you feel. Let him know that he turns you on. Try to see if you can get anything out of him, any of his insecurities and tell him that you guys can work on it together. Maybe he's stressed about work/school or whatever.... just try to talk to him about it, its not nagging its called developing a relationship.Hope this helps :)
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