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writes:This is a pretty straight forward question that hopefully somebody could answer...I've came out of a 7 month relationship about a month ago and i've not met one decent guy, or anybody at all who i've found myself attracted to! It's strange because during those 7 months when I was already with someone I was always meeting so many guys! Ones who I found amazing, funny and really good looking. But at the time I ignored all of them because I didn't want to be with anybody but my boyfriend.. Now I'm no longer with him I'm not meeting anyone! I mean I have still met a lot of guys, but nobody who i've been attracted to.. This has happened every time i've been dating someone...My friends have said this, that when they're with someone they meet so many guys. Then when they're single... nobody? Why is this.... Reply to this Question
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (27 February 2013):
 The fact you didn't appear interested because you had a boyfriend made you more attractive. It also made you more approachable.
When I go out, I go out to have fun with friends. If I meet someone great, if not, well I'm out having fun.
However, I used to go out (when I was younger) looking for girls, people have a sixth sense, and can smell it when you're out on the prowl so to speak.
Just go out to new places with friends and you'll start meeting attractive guys again. The fact you now WANT to meet one probably makes it seem longer since you're now looking for it.
It's a bit like wishing time would go faster by looking at the clock. It doesn't go faster at all, if anything, it seems to go slower because you're mindful of it.
It could also be due to the time of year. January and February are SLOW months. Spring/Summer is when you get out and about more and more people are out. You were with your boyfriend in the Summer/Autumn right?
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reader, lonesome101 +, writes (26 February 2013):
 I think it adheres to the old rule... when you look for something, you can't find it. Although this is only my opinion, I think that when you are looking, you are too busy assessing what is going on around you to notice your thoughts and feelings when it pops up. When you are not looking, you tend to run on what you think/feel at the time, rather than any kind of analysis or assessment. As I said, this is just my opinion...
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (26 February 2013):
 Youre just having bad luck so put on ur four leaf clover shirt (we all know u have one) n go out n change things! ;)
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (26 February 2013):
 Same reason that when you have money you can't find anything you'd like to buy but when your skint you see loads of things...life is just like that.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (26 February 2013):
 It's a law of nature!! Ha hah - just kidding.
Seriously though, maybe because you were so accustomed to being with your boyfriend all those months and focused on your relationship with him, that you had no interest in getting together with anybody else, even though they might be attractive.
Your relationship only ended a mere month ago. Are you still mourning the close of it, perhaps? If so, unless you were the one to end it, that's normal. Just give yourself some time being on your own, and I expect that you will in time start noticing attractive men again.......
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