A
male
age
30-35,
*andomando
writes:There is this girl in my class that I have a crush on! Shes so pretty and has the most amazing personality! I just met her about a month and a half ago. We talk in class and we kinda flirt. Smile back and fourth and she will complement me when I do a speech. Just makes me feel really good.I dont know her that well but just like talking to her I can tell she is flirting. We recently exchanged numbers. She was leaving to a funeral so I offered to help turn in her project. She was really appreciative! Her is the conversation we had and when u get smily faces, isnt it flirting??? isnt this flirting?? If this was u and u had this conversation wouldnt you think she likes you or maybe u could have a thing????? She texted me later and said "Hey! Its A :) when do you think will be a good time for me to give you my assignment today? :)". i texted her back "any time after 2 i should be free." I feel asleep when i got back to my room and i missed seeing her and she just dropped it off at the front desk for me to get. I told her i was sorry i was just up late and crashed and she said "awww you poor thing i figured you were up to somethin :)" That just seems flirty doesnt it?? So later i picked up her paper. She forgot to do 2 parts of the assignment and being the nice guy that i am I did it for her(took 5 minutes). I just told her so she knew and she said "Oh my god you are amazing!!! Holy crap you are the best seriously thank you thank you thank you :)) I had no idea we had to do one of those!" I said it was no problem and she said back "Im so going to repay you lol thank youuu!!!"Okay soo!!!!!! me thinking alright!!! Yes! maybe there is a chance here! I was excited because I asked her to hang out too and she said "Yes she would like that!!!!!!"! Soo im thinking maybe she likes me! Now here is the twist! she just facebook friended me... Her profile pic is her with her boyfriend. it says she is in a relationship... I am not a cheater and i am against cheating. I would never do it. Now i am so confused!!!! I have never talked to a girl who has texted me back like that or just talked to me like the way she does and has a bf... So in my opinion isnt that conversation flirting? dont you think that was going past the relationship boundary?? I mean if i had a gf and she said that to another guy and i saw it i think id be mad. So what should i do? I mean i can be friends with her and i wouldnt try to do anything because i know she has a bf. but what if she does come onto me? What should i do? Im so confused.. Even if she just wanted to be friends, who talks like that. And if im misinterpreting these signs and ask her about her relationship status I dont wanna look like an idiot!!!!!!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 February 2012):
 I'm with Mandy on this I really think you are seeing what you want to see in her behavior.
I am engaged and I talk like that with guys I work with. We IM all day with smiley faces... doesn't mean I want anything more than a cordial working environment.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (24 February 2012):
 A man would be mad if his girlfriend behaved like that. Texts can be misunderstood. You have to combine that with how she looks at you, her tone of voice and her body language.
I do think she is flirting. Her thanks yous were overdone and she might have forgot to do the last two questions on purpose. To answer your question people flirt with others because they have loose boundaries, they lacked the attention within the relationship, they do it for an ego boost, they do it to get back at their partners, and even, she knows that you have a crush on her and it is great feeling to be liked. Doesn't justify cheating though. I don't think it is rude to ask for relationship status. You are not an idiot for asking whether she has a boyfriend. She added you on facebook so she has nothing to hide, and it can't be that she forgot to update her status. You are only hanging out with her, but with the intention of dating her later. You have the right to find out her relationship status so she does not lead you on. If she makes you feel like an idiot because of this then she is not right for you.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (24 February 2012):
 HI
I dont think there was any flirting there at all, she was just appreciative, and grateful for your help at the time. She added you because she thinks your a good guy, not someone to flirt with. Flirting would have been more of " I owe you big time, maybe I will pay you in kindness some day lol "......thats flirting. not I owe you . She see's you as a friend, dont ake it out of context.
Mandy x
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