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Why is my wife not as tight as she was?

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Question - (23 November 2009) 7 Answers - (Newest, 24 November 2009)
A male Canada age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I went away for couple of weeks to work, and when i came back, my wife was sort of lose, and before i went out, she was nice and tight.

When i asked her why she got loose, she jumped and and chaged the topic and she did not want to talk about it.

do you think she is cheating on me, or can a women get a looser by materbating nightly?

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A female reader, Ich_liebe_dich Philippines +, writes (24 November 2009):

Ich_liebe_dich agony auntits only in your mind i think.. lol...

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A female reader, bitch United States +, writes (23 November 2009):

You are being completely ridiculous. Honestly, it is almost impossible for her to get "loose" in that amount of time unless she had a ten pound baby in those two weeks.... You are being very very paranoid and almost silly.

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A male reader, the_phoenic United Kingdom +, writes (23 November 2009):

as a man i know that most men penises have close widthes

but different lenthes

and because of this fact i think she was using a very big dildo for fun nothing more so dotn get worried

any ways if she was cheating (( wichi dont believe she did)) you well nottice difference in her attitiude towards you not difference in her width actually..

try to make her feel comfortable and she might share her sexual fantasies with you and you well have loads of fun

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A female reader, TasteofIndia United States + , writes (23 November 2009):

TasteofIndia agony auntYou have no evidence to accuse your wife of cheating.

A) This could all be in your mind. Women don't just loosen up, not unless they just gave birth to a child. Or, if they're around the end of their period. The vagina has amazing elasticity, friend. Maybe she jumped a mile because she was guilty, but maybe she's uncomfortable talking about her vagina and being accused of cheating?

B) Okay, if she did actually loosen up, maybe she went out while you were away and got a big dildo to have fun with while you were gone. Maybe it's bigger than you. Maybe she doesn't want to talk about it because she doesn't want to embarrass herself OR you.

C) Or, perhaps she is cheating. Has she given you a good reason to think so otherwise? Has she been sketchy and disconnected? Has she been creeping off to make secretive phone calls? Did you do the laundry and find condoms in her pocket?

Bottom line - I can't say whether or not your wife is cheating on you. But you can't base an accusation of infidelity on a vagina! That's just plain silly.

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A female reader, Roadster73 United Kingdom +, writes (23 November 2009):

Roadster73 agony aunta womens downstairs department can change with her monthly cycle, if she is in the middle of her cycle she will be more moist as these fluids help to move semen to her uterus...So the downstairs can feel more welcoming, but I am betting if u made love at the end of her cycle it wouldn't be so moist?? The only other thing that streches a ladys privates is childbirth & obesity or numerous partners over a number of years (not days or weeks)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009):

I don't understand, you mean down there? How can it happen over 2 weeks? That's nonsense. No,it can't get looser because of masturbation, it gets looser w/age. Hope, it helped.

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A male reader, xynebrutalis United States +, writes (23 November 2009):

xynebrutalis agony aunt Only if shes masturbating with a dildo, that happens with lots of sexual activity, so its a possibility that she is cheating, especially if shes not using a dildo.

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