A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Why do I want to be with almost every girl I meet. I have a wife and she is great. But, from time to time I would like to be with other girls. Whats up with that?? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, AlinaCoop  +, writes (22 December 2010):
 You sound exactly like my husband.... I am very good looking..he is still looking around..that's bad..let me teel you that's is soo unconfortable...
A
reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010): When you say you wanna "be with" other girls from time to time you just mean sex, right? If so, have you and your wife ever considered being swingers? You could stay married, but still have other sexual partners from time to time. And neither of you would have to feel guilty since you'd both be doing it.
...............................
A
female
reader, chigirl  +, writes (22 December 2010):
 You have a fluctuating mind, you are restless and intrigued easily, curious by nature perhaps. It is the way you are. Looking and imagining is far from doing it though. I imagine you often day dream and fantasize, have good imagination perhaps?
Just remember that you are married, don't act on any day dreams, and realize that what is real is far from how you dream things to be. As long as you stay faithful and this isn't causing you torment then it is ok.
Have you been married for long? It could be you are growing a bit bored and tired with your wife, so if this interest in other women have surfaced recently it could be a sign of that. Then again it could also be a sign of you simply wanting to get a change of scene, meet new people, and be social. Perhaps you have stayed with the same crowd of people for too long and have a desire to open up and meet new people? The initial response to such a wish would be to get closer to new females as that would also open the door for more acquaintances.
Identify what it is you think you could gain from a new woman. If it is to meet someone new: go meet someone new that isn't going to lead up to you having an affair, for example get a hobby, say hi to the neighbor and get to know him better etc. If it is because it is exciting: go skydiving, climb a mountain etc. If it is because you want to go to new places: take a vacation, see a place you always wanted too.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010): I had the same issue with my marriage. I think it's all about who you are and where your relationship stands. I'm not saying you don't love her but my issue was that I married young and had a family really quick (which I have no regrets) so when I saw someone I liked or felt a certain attraction I went for it. I also couldn't surrender my heart to him because he really hurt me emotionally wise in the beginning of our relationship causing me to built up a wall of separation. At the end it comes down to what is in your heart and where your wife stands when it comes to priorities and commitment.
...............................
|
