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writes:I weigh 8 stone 5 pounds and I am 5ft 3inches. I exercise a lot because I play a lot of sports and I like to go early morning running as well as hitting the gym from time to time (when the weather is horrible!). I eat normally, I always have breakfast and one proper meal a day. If I am not hungry then I won't eat, or I will just have something light.Ok I think the above sounds normal right? So why is my mother telling me that I'm not eating properly, and suddenly all the teachers at school are saying 'have you lost weight?' 'you look really good at the moment'. I think my mother has spoken to the school about all of this and I don't think that there is anything wrong with me at all. My mother also demands to know what I weigh and tells me 'I don't want you putting on any more weight' 'should you really be snacking between meals?' 'do you need to take so much food back with you?' (I go to boarding school)Yes there was an occasion last year when I didn't eat a proper meal for a day and fainted the following morning - that was just because I had been rushing around. But that was in the summer last year, I eat perfectly normally of course I have days when I don't eat much, but doesn't everyone?Please give me your honest opinions and thank you for taking the time to read this. Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all your support Honeypie, it is really nice to know that there is someone out there supporting me in this! :-) I know I shouldn’t let it get to me but I am, it seems as if as soon as I get one thing right my mother throws something else in my face – I don’t know maybe I’m just imagining it. I may go and see the nurse, I’ll have a think about it and see if anymore teachers say things to me.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (12 January 2009):
 Good luck hun,
And the seeing the school nurse was for your mom, not you really. It might easy her mind:) It will show her that you listened to what she said and what she worries about. And hopefully make her let go of the topic.
She might not be good at expressing her love for you and this is her way of saying I care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSisyphus thank you for your answer, I couldn’t agree more some peoples attitude to food amazes me. It could well be the quality of food I eat that she is concerned about but our school food is really very good and I try to have carbs and protein as well as fruit and veg during the day. I will own up to snacking more at school than I do at home. Thank you for your answer it is much appreciated!
Honeypie thank you for your answer, I do agree that it is very easy to go down the eating disorder route without really realising what you are doing, as I mentioned before I have two friends who have both been anorexic. I do agree but I have at least one ‘proper’ meal a day as well as breakfast. I do have a school nurse but I am reluctant to go to them because it seems to me that I have no problem whatsoever, but that is a really good thought and I will bear it in mind. My mother and I have a bit of a rocky relationship, having just gotten it back on track again I am very reluctant to have another argument with her, but I do agree that I will have to talk to her eventually. Thank you, your answer is much appreciated!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (12 January 2009):
Eating disorders are so easy to get, specially for younger girls.
Have a sit down next time you are home from bording school and talk to your mom. Ask her what is it about your weight that worries her.
Just having breakfast and 1 meal is not the best way to go, but it works differently for everyone. Some dietitians say 3 meals and at least 2 snacks (be it fruit/veggies whatnot).
You eat the the most important meal, breakfast so that is good.
Do you have a school nurse? Maybe if you write down what and when you eat throughout the day for a week and show it to her she can give you some guidance and in turn you can show your mom that you are taking care of your nutrition.
PS Not eating when you aren't hungry is a very good thing.:)
Personally I think you are doing fine. You exercise a lot which is good.
Talk to your mom.
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reader, Sisyphus  +, writes (12 January 2009):
 Having worked in both the food industry and the health industry I am amazed at some of the attitudes that people have towards food and their bodies. Your weight seems fine, and I'm glad that you're physically active. Could it be that your mother is not concerned about the amount you eat, but rather the quality of food you are consuming?Living such an active lifestyle requires fuel for your body, and if you're feeding it junk then you're doing yourself a major disservice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Gina
Thanks for taking the time to reply to my question, I really appreciate it.
I have two friends who have been anorexic in the past, maybe she is worrying about their influence on me? I don't know. I am really trying to see it from her point of view but I really can't!
I am under immense pressure at the moment with exam and many other things which are going on in my life, but I know just how important eating is.
The fact that she has (I think) spoken to school about this is what annoys me the most. Why it annoys me so much I don't know, but it does.
Thanks again.
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (12 January 2009):
 Your weight is perfectly fine for your height and i do not understand why your mother is fussing so much over it.
If you have never had any eating disorders then all i can think of is the one time you fainted but you knew the reason for this and if she has had a word with the school i think that is why they are asking questions.
I can't see why she is making a thing about your weight as i said if you had eating problems before or were quite heavy and lost a lot of weight i could understand her concerns but she seems to be concerned more about you putting on weight now at 8st 5 lbs and 5ft 3in i would say you are in the ideal weight range for your height so i am puzzled have you ever came out and asked her why she is so concerend about your weight?
Gina
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