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writes:Morning All,it was my friends birthday 2 days ago and i got her Lost Season 1-4 boxsets because she mentioned how she wanted them but couldnt afford them. When she opene it she looked dissapointed and when i asked what was wrong she said she thought i was going to buy her Elizabeth Arden 8 hour cream because a couple of weeks ago we went in to Debenhams and the beauty lady let us try some as a tester which i then purchased. My friend NEVER hinted she wanted the cream and after we left the shop she said how pushy the sales woman was and how expensive the cream was!I mentioned to her that she had previously said she wanted the Lost boxsets but couldnt afford it and she denied it saying "did i? I cant remember".I offered to return the dvds and buy her the cream but she said no.Im so pissed off with her! does anyone else think she was rude? and why did she deny saying she wanted the dvds??? I mean 4 boxsets cost me more than the damn cream would have! Reply to this Question
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reader, dinosaurexx  +, writes (29 May 2009):
 i have to agree with Klara.. part of the problem is you are being a little bit of a pushover. I would take the dvd's back and get her something cheap instead. Maybe she wont be so high maintenance after that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2009): Yeah, that was very rude. She may have a problem that has nothing to do with you, she may feel she didn't deserve such an expensive gift and can't handle the feelings that brings up in her and she is deflecting or projecting it back on you to make you to blame for how she feels.
Twisted. It is her problem. I like the idea of giving her the receipt and telling her to return and pick out what she wants. Some people are all about themselves and control, and she probably does want to control her own gifts like everything else in her life.
Feel sorry for her and try to let it go, it is about her, not about you. You did a very nice thing and I am sorry
she hurt your feelings, it happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2009): Thats so ungrateful and rude! If i was you i'd give her a good telling too! She needs to know how cheeky she is! I never get anything from my friends for my birthday, so i think what you did was lovely! I'd love a friend like you! Just tell her what an ungrateful bitch she is!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2009): That was very rude of her. Just take the DVD's back and give her some crappy gift instead.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (29 May 2009):
 Completely rude and tacky. If I were you, I'd be pissed too. But, the best thing for you to do is seethe a little under your breath and let it go - it's just not worth the emotional energy getting caught up in your friends tacky behavior.
But maybe sticking in a little, "I'm sorry I didn't get you the gift that you wanted..." or "sorry that you hated your gift...." - just to hear her say "what, no!! I loved it!!" would be worth it. Just so she knows that you know that she was disappointed and that it hurt your feelings.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2009): you think shes pissed off?
my mate didnt even text me Happy Birthday
so i think this girls being a right little madam..lol she needs to get a grip on herself (no offence :| )
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2009): I think this happens sometimes with all ladies, Like an american visited me in Africa and i tried very much to please her, moved her places, Late in the night i could do whatever she wanted and she always thanked me. One day i was watching lost and talking about how it is WOW and amazing, she said i get her the DVDs, when i got them the next mornin' she was like Aww, i dont have time and pressing on someother far pressing matters. So i think u should look her in the eye for a minute showing how angry you are, she will realise you care about her and this wont ever happen again and she would learn to appreciate OR OR OR she fears that you might want the payment back in future so you should clarify that too. Thanks
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (29 May 2009):
 I would be pissed off too. Those boxsets are fairly expensive and it was good of you as a friend to get her something she said she wanted. And then she's ungrateful about it? Ugh!
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