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30-35,
helpmeplese
writes:ok so i went ot a varsity game with my friends and my ex was there with her new bf. we dont talk to each other anymore but the whole time she kept staring at me. me and her bff were hanging out the whole time and she hugged me 3 times and my ex ran up to and asked why she hugged me. then i was with my really close friend and i talkd to her alot to and she flirted and hugged me as well but my ex stared at me the whole entire time i was with another girl. i just dont get it she has another bf but she stares at me and gets mad when girls flirt and hug me. ( btw im over my ex i dont talk to her and she tries to talk to me. i ignore her and she doesnt get why. plus im happier we broke up.)the other thing i didnt get was her bff and i hang out the whole time and we never hung out or flirted that much before. and she said this to me which caught me off guard " hey ( my name), wouldnt it be funny if you and me held hands and hugged around your ex to see if she will get jealous". i didnt get it because we are not really that great of friends but in the past month we have talked alot and got along. and she is best friends with my ex and she wanted to make her jealous.just give me your opinion on the whole thing thanks.
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reader, Irish49  + ♥, writes (6 September 2008):
 Well, your ex's best friend certainly is not a best friend to your ex, is she? You have to ask why is your ex's best friend being so vindictive, as too manipulating her 'friendship' with you, as to cause hurt in your ex gf? her best friend?? I don't get it, What purpose did it serve to for this friend to state "let's make your ex gf jealous"? This tidbit of information is vey telling about 'her' level of maturity and ulack of caring, hun? I think she's being a very shallow person, to play with the feelings of others. I think this girl likes having a very immature competition to one-up your ex gf and you are caught in the middle here. You got to be careful, because eventually, you will be out on your ear, when this game runs it's course and it's no fun, anymore. If I were you, I'd avoid this female. Actions and behaviors bespeak character and maturity of a person. Your ex gf, may also still have feelings but that doesn't necessarily mean she wants you back. Sometimes, people do this when they see their ex dating partners with someone else. They become saddened and hurt, when they see their ex with another.
Sometimes, when a couple break up..they feel that situations like this (jealousy ploys) means that 'revenge is sweet'. This is not revenge, this is toxic crap and it's very painful. I feel the the best revenge is living well and being a happy person. Your ex gf has found a new bf. You have no idea what is happening in their relationship. It's time to not allow yourself to get caught up in all this 'drama' and move on past this and resist the urge to feel smug about what happened with this best friend of your ex's. You ex gf shared an intimacy with you and perhaps she still feels some heartfelt emotions towards you. But if you are over her, then you know, nothing will come of this. So continue to respect that she is with someone else, now and that she's possib;y still recovering. Walk away from all this toxic crap and move on to brighter, more positive aspects of your life. Take what you have learned, and apply it to all future relationships. As for this best friend of your exes? Tell her you don't play that game, with other people's feelings and lives, anymore. Good luck and take care, dear.
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