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Why is my cheating ex angry that I have moved on?

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Question - (14 May 2015) 5 Answers - (Newest, 15 May 2015)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

This is just a general question. Why would an ex girlfriend who cheated and left you for someone else, get extremely mad when they discover you've moved on yourself? My ex cheated and played the back and forth game for weeks. One day, I was the love of her life and she was so sorry and wanted to work things out. And the next, she wanted to be with the person she cheated with. This went on and on. It was torturous for me.

Well, she finally made the decision to get with the person she cheated with (who is lousy to her, when I treated her with nothing but respect) and when she discovered I had started seeing somebody myself, she got pissed at me. I mean, raging mad at me. It makes no sense at all. Wants nothing to do with me anymore and refuses to speak to me. Why would anyone behave like that? Is this just because she wanted me to sit around and sulk? I don't understand this behavior?

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A male reader, CMMP United States + , writes (15 May 2015):

Because she's crazy. I'd block her and forget about her.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (15 May 2015):

Honeypie agony auntShe resents the fact that she has been replaced. She doesn't LIKE it. SHE is the ONE who replaces people, NOT you.

Why are you even still in contact with this one? She sounds like an utterly manipulative flake!

LET her go, bro.

Focus on your NEW (and hopefully improved) lady-love.

Who gives a rat's buttocks what SHE thinks? She is an ex... And for a GOOD reason. LEAVE her bum in the past.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2015):

She wanted to move on but she didn't want you to move on. To be there for her still should the new guy not work out or to string you along with the new guy just to boost her ego.

She doesn't care. She just cares about herself.

Funny how we want what we can't have?

She cut you loose but wants you to be at her beck and call? Just doesn't work that way. SHE MADE HER CHOICE. Now she has to live with it.

Now that you have moved on, she is pissed. Shot to her ego. She is selfish.

My ex's ex girlfriend was cheating on him. He dumped her. He started seeing me. And she kept calling him and calling him and tried to get him back. She could give a rat's ass about him while she was cheating on him with her boss but the second she found out he had a new girlfriend she was all over him.

Human nature is funny, isn't it?

I would not even question her motives. She CHEATED on YOU. Leave it at that.

She is the one with all the problems. NOT YOU.


Enjoy your FREEDOM and find yourself someone better!

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A male reader, Garbo United States + , writes (14 May 2015):

Garbo agony auntWhy do you have a need to speak to her or be in any contact with her? She is a cheater and as such you need to leave her alone, and have nothing to do with her. Once you do that, than you will not hear what she has to say and she will no longer be an irritant which obviously she is to you. Ultimately, it does not matter what she says and how much she broods because, after the break up, she is nothing to you and anything she thinks or says is inconsequential. Whatever reason she has to poke into your life is because you allow her to do that. Be sure you cut her off completely and one way you will know that you succeeded is if you no longer hear utterances from her.

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A male reader, Xearo Trinidad and Tobago +, writes (14 May 2015):

You should not be continuing conversations with someone like this. This person will only bring misery to your life and anything new you try to bring into it.

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