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writes:Before my boyfriend and I went out, we were friends, not good friends though. I noticed that he had a lot of friends, most of whom were girls. Then we started small talk and he was always "chasing" me, texting me, writing on my myspace and I noticed that he was different, a nice guy not like all my other bfs. So we started going out and for the first week it was great, we would hang out a lot and make out a lot lol Then, it changed. One night, we were kissing on his bed and he started taking my clothes off, leaving me in my underwear. I wanted to have sex and gave him a condom but he just tossed it on the floor. So I tried giving him a hj but he took my hand off and kept kissing me. After that, he didnt want to hang out with me that much like a lot of the times, he tells me he is goint to sleep really early and then I see him at midnight. I think Im going to break up with him but is he gay?? I mean thats the only reason I can think of because I dont mean to brag but Im really attractive and even his friends said so. If he is not, then why is he acting like this?
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reader, Jmo +, writes (10 January 2009):
 He could be gay, but from the information you've given, I'm leaning towards no. He took some of your clothes off and when you tried to give him a condom but he tossed it. You tried to give him a hand-job but even though he refused that, he still wanted to continue kissing you. Question: did he have an erection during the time you two were messing around?
He could just be a nice guy. I don't have the best reputation when it comes to my sexual past, I usually assumed that if someone is messing around with me they're trying to get laid. There have been more than a few times when I've been hanging around with someone as friends knowing full well that they have had feelings for me. And when it eventually turns in to a physical relationship and we start making out, I've felt dejected when it seems like they don't want to sleep with me. Over the years however, I've learned some of the reasons and can understand it a bit more. A few suggestions: He really has strong feelings for you but just isn't ready to become that intimate with you. He might be waiting to make sure that the two of you are truly in love. He might be waiting for marriage (yes, there are some guys who do that). He might feel as though he's doing something wrong. He might have hangups about being a virgin. Maybe he's on meds. Hell, he might actually be gay. The list of possibilities are endless and I won't bother listing more, but the point is, before you write him off you owe each other some candid conversation regarding what's on your minds. It's only fair.
And if it turns out that he is gay, it seems like he's still a friend worth having around.
-Jmo
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reader, NurseBetty85 +, writes (10 January 2009):
 Well, you made it to second base. And if he was truely gay, it would'nt even have got that far. Maybe he is not ready to go all the way, or he respects you way to much.
Good luck! If this continues and you really want it from him, just seek someone else. You are a young lady, there are more horny fish in the sea lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2009): Hi - not sure if this helps but someone I know was with a guy for 11 years (not married) and it was only when she dumped him did he 'come out'. Looking back she says that he had a lot of female friends (though blamed his job), was kind of awkward around other males, and their sex life was stale. Gay or not, if the guy is not making you happy then best to move on otherwise you are just compromising / making excuses for him.
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