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writes:I have a general question. why is it that the more we are not allowed to do something the more we want to do it? like if you can do it then great, do it. but if your not allowed, why does it feel even better? why is it that the more forbidden something is the more people wish to explore? I've never been able to get a straight answer on this.would love to hear peoples ideas.Cheers Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007): I guess we are just trying to test how far we can go and how much we can get away with. I think it is an ego thing. Alot of people have something to prove to themselves. When someone tells you not to look at or touch something the only reason you might do so is to resist that person's order. Maybe it makes you feel powerful. And we all do this. I mean when something is "forbidden" you ask yourself "says who?" "and why is it forbidden to ME?" We are all part of the earth and all feel entitled to everything. We find it condescending to be told that something is forbidden when we don't even understand why or are given an explanation. It makes us feel suspicious. Like something is being hidden from us or we are being deveived. So we have to find out what is going on cause we can't let ourselves be prey, or become someone's dinner cause we were hopelessly gullible. So we must take charge.
I mean we are animals. We think that way. We are always trying to protect our best interests and as cultivated as we think we are, deep down we are suspicious of everything.
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reader, Uncle_Phil  + ♥, writes (9 December 2007):
 This sort of thing can be to a parent's advantage. Like telling the kids they're not allowed to do something you really want them to do - like washing up, making their beds, or not to come home before 9pm - they wonder why and come home at 8.45. Sometimes it works!
I'm no bible-basher, but I think it explains it quite nicely in Genesis about the forbidden fruit and all that!
It all boils down to human nature.
Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): I reckon that because it is forbidden it makes it more mysterious and you really, really want to know why you are not allowed to do whatever it is.
I guess the thing when it feels better...well I'd guess that everyone still has some kind of instincts in them which I will call pride. For example: you sing in a school talent show and you win, you would feel really chuffed, and really, really pleased with yourself. I guess if you do the forbidden thing it will make you proud in a way because you found out something/did something that people don't think that you could do...
Well...thats my reasoning behind it anyway!
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ps. good question btw!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): Well human nature always seems to want what it can't have. I think it's part of our survival technique..pushing the boundaries to gain something which we think is better. Even in todays society there are things that are considered taboo, certain experiments on foetus etc/dna, but scientists are still pushing boundaries. Another example of this is women's rights and the rights for females to vote, they got what they wanted in the end. Further back in time for example the Roman Empire, they weren't satisified until they had conquered nearly all of Europe. I think it's all about survival and self gratification. That's my opinion.
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