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30-35,
*rtistical_bumblebee
writes: dated this guy for around two months then he had a few problems, family being ill and his grandpa died. i was sympathetic listened, lots of hugs. good shoulder. then didnt hear from him for a week, 2 weeks i did but only texts to explain why he hadnt seen me , he was jsut very upset and couldnt cope well. gave benefit of the doubt. then didn't hear from him for another week texts nada. so i prepared to move on. bumped into him when i was out he asked to see me but we were both busy. spoke briefly over xmas but i kept it mono ansaws yes no im ok thanks. he kept saying he wanted to see me, i said just tell me when and where. he never did. so i just forgot about it, then when i started uni again (go same place) bumped into him but just walked on i didn't do greets. he then text to say nice to se you ha! i suggested he met me where i was going, he said no money. i said your wasting my time, i don't wait on people and i don't enjoy playing games. he called me bitter and angry i didn't text back. then 3 weeks later i bumped into him when i was out with some lad friends. he smiled alot when he saw me and said he was sorry. asked me not to block him out even if i just want to stay friends and not date because he wants to be apart of my life. that he was gutted when he got that text from me. i said you will change your mind tomorrow. he argued he was a nice guy and not like that. i gave him a chance. stayed at his , then in the morning i got up early asked for a hug off him wanted some reassurance but he didn't say anything i got up and said bye . he ran after me and asked if iwas offended? i said no why woulod i be.he said i will see you i said ok then he tryed to hug me i dodged it. i didn't hear from him in a few days then he said hed like ot meet up on wednesday i said ok text me when and things. he never did, i waited all day then wednsday night i went out anyway and text him to say im here if you fancy it he said i might see you later. i said i don't know where i will be have a nice night. he text back saying to me that he doesn't know where we are going and is sorry for not seeing me on that night, i text back saying i don't know whre this is going, ive made the effort told you when im free told you id like to see you you just can't be bothered. he said its not that. eventually met up at a bar i was with my guy mates he was with people from his work. got one hug from him, he spoke to other people moved around the bar i danced with my guy mates then i went out for a cigeretee he folowed i went inside end of the night i was talking to my girlmate who really doesnt like him and said that i shouldnt bother anymore because its just not worth it. he then came over over heard us talking i walked off came back and she had told him to stop being a sod because i like him. she left thn he said to me he wanted to talk to me, i said i don't want to talk, i listend anyway he said that we don't communicate he doesn't know what to do. i walked off end of the night he went back to his i went to a different bar. text him later that night to say what did you have to tell me? havent heard since. im sorry this is long but its playing on my mind a bit. i like him alot but im not really sure whats happend or why hes being like hes being. help please.
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reader, Sersys  +, writes (6 February 2010):
guys -sad to say- are real easy to figure: he was taking his chances with other girls and when he failed he still wanted to look cool having a girlfriend... you. you are just a backup circuit in case of a blackout to him. either stick to him until he suffocates or dump him in 0,0001 seconds!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (6 February 2010):
 If you are still thinking about him, it means you still want to give him a chance.
Honestly, I think he is too inexperienced to be playing games. He is just as perplexed as you are. He seems interested but just didn't understand why you are that impatient and frustrated. He's actually thinking you don't like him that much. Everytime he wanted to make it work you pushed him away. 1. He has no money, he wanted to treat you something. You said he's wasting your time. 2. You asked him to hug you. He's thinking about what you just said. You dodged him. 3. You agreed to go to a club with him. You danced with other guys, then you left.
You are giving too little time for him to explain himself. You assume he just knows how you feel and how to behave, and when he doesn't, you got irritated and he took that as a rejection. I would suggest talk and listen to him, that's if you are still intersted in him. He is slow to warm up.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 February 2010):
He's just not that bothered is he? You know it. You really do. A guy who is truly into you makes a huge amount of effort. This guy is just wasting your time. Leave him well alone.
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