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anonymous
writes:My bf and i are going to have our 5 year anniversary next month. He pretty much lived in my room at school this year and we slept together every night. We are very close, best friends, great sex, etc. We just returned from an awesom vacation but have to live in our seperate houses. Yesterday was our first day apart and we talked on the phone for a minute but he didnt call me all afternoon and finally called at 1 in the morning. He was sort of nasty and said he had done nothing all day. I'm confused. We talk about getting married, but I've stopped mentioning it and figure the ball's in his court. He needs to be able to plan the ring, engagement, etc. or I don't think it will work. Every time he gets back with his parents he acts so different. I just feel I do all the work in the realtionship as far as planning and making things happen. His mommy still has a huge amount of input in his life even though he is over 21. He did a gross cyber thing way back in high school before we were really together which he confessed to, otherwise he is perfect. Should I be worried that he is back on the computer and acting like a baby cuz he's home? If I found out he was online, and I know I'm paranoid, I would break up with him cuz we should be way past that. Why is he acting soooo different? I don't like the way this feels.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): Trust your gut - if it feels like something isn't right it probably isn't. Like LonelyTwo says - you need to talk to him....thinking about all sorts of possible scenarios will do no good and will send you crazy...give him a chance to talk to you...just make sure you listen to what he is saying...and don't just get bogged down in him hearing your perspective, which is easy to do! GOOD communication needed here!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): You have to communicate with him. How does he feel about setting the engagement date and such? Does he have enough money for a ring, or will you settle on a ring that costs a few hundred dollars (I did this, and 15 years later replaced it with a ring that cost a few grand). He may not know what you expect from him, if not, then your communication is breaking down and will get worse.
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