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writes:My bf and i just got back from college for the summer. We go to school a few miles apart and he lives with me in my suite for the most part. He goes to his school and room during the day and is with me every night and weekend. I am having such a hard time being apart. We are our respective homes with parents and his parents won't let him stay at my house. He is nearly 21 and I am 20 and we have been together for more than 4 yrs. We talk about marrying. I am concerned a bit because now that he is home with his parents he has had a couple of days where he doesn't call like he usually does, doesn't ask to come over or ask me to come over there. He seems distant on the phone. Our families got together for a picnic and we all played a game. He got very aggressive and threw the ball at me really hard a couple of times and then acted like it was a joke. He also is sort of pushy and shovey sometimes. Everything was great up at school, but now that he seems off. Could he be angry that his mom controls so much and taking it out on me or do you think he is home and sees me as a pain or something. I'm just sad and confused. He says nothing is up and wrote me a beautiful letter. I don't know. Reply to this Question |
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reader, pepper27  + ♥, writes (26 May 2008):
 Hi Hunny
I cant answer what is wrong sweetheart it could be all sorts of things going through his head..Its a shame you cant sit down and talk its so frustrating when you no something is wrong and the other person says there is nothing wrong when you feel this gut instinct...My advise to you is let him come to you, If he is not having so much contact and he hasnt mentioned meeting up and he seems distant then give him some time, Yes its worrying, Yes you want to know whats wrong but you pressure and you wont get anywere...Leave him come to you, You have always been there, You are a big part of his life, He wrote you a beautifull letter but its still leaving you confused and this pushy shoving thing sounds like some sort of frustrated anger. Probably not pointed at you at all and it probably makes him more angry once he has done it...This is one explaination sweety...If he loves you he will come to you, Im going to send you a self esteem link love as I think every woman needs a boost from time to time even just a short blast of self help to get that confidence level up when something goes wrong.......http://www.womensselfesteem.com/index.html
This site has a multitude of things on it hunny, you dont have to read it but its there if you need a lift...
Its easy to say try not to worry, This will all come out and Im sure you are not a pain love, Give him some space and I bet he starts wondering were you have gone, Then hopefully you two can talk, But dont be pushed around hunny ok, YOU TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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