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*ithe4ngel
writes:I apologize in advance im typing this on my phone.Anyways I am not a touchy feely person.I am offered hugs by ny friends but theyre cold and I dont hug back.I dont enjoy having to worry about them hugging ne whenever they want.I try and wear long sleeves a lot to help.I push away affection.I want it though I want to be hugged to hold someones hand.so why do I push them away?I cant handle the idea of being glomped whenever its just not who I am...but I want affection and its so far from who I am that to ask for it feels impossible.unless something sad has happened or for the other persons sake.I was given a proper hug for the first time in four years.I am a bit freaked out about it.There are not many people I could accept hugging me especially for a long time and as a suprise.It was a right place right time and not a person id yell at for touching me.Letting someone off easy might let people think its ok.That hug I assumed it was for me it felt great.I of course want to feel that way again.I am afraid I'll probably wait another four years though.so how do I feel more affection without being given such an empty amount that its sickening.I guess I put a lot of meaning in affection.I havent been able to not think about the sudden influx of postive affection I recieved.I realize that the effect it had on me probably wasnt intended.I just want another hug and to stop obsessing about it?He wanted one enough to take on from a person who trys to be physically frigid.Why target me?Why hug me when I wont get another?I know it was for them.I just am suprised its been a long time since I felt like it was for me.Like it wasnt just discomfort to be acceptable.since my friends would worry if I totally refused.so why am I freaking about being held?Why is affection so scary and yet very wanted..
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2016): I think we all pretty much crave affection/hugs. But when we want them not always open to when anyone wants to hug me. I've been married to a great guy for over 30 years and I like to hug him and be hugged by him but I usually am the one that starts the hugging. I really don't want to be randomly hugged all the time. He figured this out about me and waits for my hug or opens his arms to let me know he wants to hug me. So I let him. See we all have our little quirks that's what makes us, "us". Hope this helped. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2016): you may be slightly autistic or on the autism spectrum, like aspergers, autistic people often cannot deal with affection, hugs, touch etc..
seek therapy, there is something not right here?
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