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Why is anal so painful? Only once it surprisingly worked by using lubrication.

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Question - (4 February 2008) 10 Answers - (Newest, 28 September 2009)
A age 22-25, anonymous writes:

Whenever we try doggy style, it really hurts. We've tried using lubrication, and one time it surprisingly worked, but all the other times we've tried I've felt ill with the pain. He knows this, so we don't do it, but I know he wants it. I'd love to please him in this area, so how can I make it hurt less?!

Just one or two fingers doesn't hurt, but he's a big man, and I feel like I'm gonna pass out when he tries!

[Moderator's note: the user actually suggested the title of this question, I noticed the slight discrepancy between the title and the content and I decided to leave room for interpretations, and not interpret myself. To clarify, I will post these definitions from the dictionary:

"Doggy style is a sex position. This name refers to the initial position assumed by dogs when mating. In this position, the receiving partner crouches on all fours with the legs slightly spread, while the penetrating partner penetrates the receiver vaginally or anally from behind."

"Anal sex is a form of human sexual behavior. While there are many sexual acts involving the anus, anal cavity, sphincter valve and/or rectum, the term anal sex is often restricted to anal intercourse: the insertion of the erect penis into the rectum. It is a form of sexual behavior considered to be comparatively high in risk, due to the vulnerability of the tissues and the septic nature of the anus."

We encourage the poster to clarify this for a better understanding of her problem.]

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009):

Wow, so many opinons about anal being wrong...

It might be bse to express personal opinons here, some women actually DO ENJOY the act... there are no universal right and wrongs... but every person is intitled to have an opinion about making their anus avalible for sexual play.

As for "only made for things to exit"- not quite true, may be "primary intent is for passing of waste matter", but with a bit of care the orafice is more than capable to recieving a penis.

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A female reader, RXX United Kingdom +, writes (5 February 2008):

RXX agony auntanal is where the penis penetrates the anus (bum hole) doggy style is the penis penetrating the vagina from behind just like dogs do - which is why it is called doggy style.

if u need anymore advice just message me!! xxxxx

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A male reader, Yos Netherlands +, writes (5 February 2008):

Yos agony auntDoggy style:

http://www.funpal.net/wp-content/uploads/2006/08/Doggy%20Style.jpg

Either hole, its still called doggy style.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008):

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Ok, I'm really confused. So doesn't doggy involve going in through the 'hole in your bum' aka anus making it anal?!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

So what is anal?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Is doggy not anal? Lol what is it then?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008):

Why are you compromising your feelings in favour of another person in this way? Noone who loved you would even dream of getting you in pain. You may be the type that sets out to please men but unless you please yourself you will never be respected. Lighten up, love (we are talking love aren't we or is it just sex?)should not be reduced to the deomoninator of whether you can have sex up your bum.

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A female reader, xapathyxrebornx United Kingdom +, writes (4 February 2008):

xapathyxrebornx agony auntDoggy style is not anal sex it is vaginal sex

if you want to do anal then i suggest you use lube everytime! x

xX message me if you wanna talk Xx

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A male reader, Yos Netherlands +, writes (4 February 2008):

Yos agony auntReading the question I'm not sure this heading is correct? Doggy is not anal.

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A female reader, hlskitten United Kingdom +, writes (4 February 2008):

hlskitten agony auntHi

Its not what mother nature intended it to be used for, thats why it hurts so much!

Most women dont really go a bundle on it, they just tend to go along with it because they think their guys will think they are hot, and great in bed!

Its rediculous in my opinion, and i wouldnt ever do it again. Not in this lifetime anyway! Like it or lump it.

Your guy shouldnt want to hurt you, if he loves you that is. And just maybe, you arent suited to it and wont ever be comfortable with it? Far better to be more assertive and say if its not your thing.

C xxxxx

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