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writes:hi, so here's the thing:I am 16 and I have never been in a relationship. I have never been kissed or anything like that. Basically never had anything to do with boys beyond being just friends. Why? I have friends who are constantly talking about SOME guy they met SOMEWHERE and now they are going out...why has this never happened for me? I'm not ugly or overweight or one of the obvious things that makes guys not notice you. It's so frustrating! Please help!
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reader, Blod +, writes (22 June 2012):
 You seem to be thinking that this means that there's something wrong with you. I can pretty much guarantee that this isn't the case.
There's too much pressure these days on young people and it seems that teenagers are expected to have had their first kiss by a certain age, lose their virginity by a certain time and, if you haven't, then you must be a freak or something. This is completely wrong!
The reality is that we have these experiences when the time's right for us and this varies from person to person. It's pointless comparing yourself to your friends because you don't live their lives and they're not you. It seems to me that you haven't kissed anyone or had a boyfriend because you haven't been in the position for that to happen. You haven't met the right person or someone that you'd like to kiss and vice-versa.
It's clearly playing on your mind but it's not something that you need to worry about. You will kiss someone one day and you will find a boyfriend. You've said yourself that there's no reason why anyone shouldn't like you so it sounds to me that it's just a waiting game. You are and will be fine :)
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reader, josh141644  +, writes (22 June 2012):
I am around your agebeing male i see the other side you see. Personally for myself i have never had anything past friends with girls. One deciding factor is that are you trying to pursue anyone? when girls are talking about a guy, they have a reason. they either find his physical features attractive or they really like his personality. its pretty similar for guys. Also, maybe try to look at your own personality and see if it matches or is similar to a guy and maybe try to get to know him better and on a deeper level.people sometimes are just waiting for someone to come to them, you can do that but you have to put in at least some effort in attracting someone around or trying to find someone also
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2012): Do you feel ready to "kissed or anything like that", or is there something perhaps psychological that is stopping you? Perhaps you're just a little afraid to try kissing a guy you may like (and who hopefully likes you back too). Could you perhaps ask a friend you trust if there is anything obviously wrong with you that may be putting the guys off you (not saying that there is, though), or if there is anything else they've possibly noticed.
To conclude though, you are young, and have plenty of years ahead of you to experience kissing, and more.
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