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writes:Hey folks, I would like some opinions on this, as I am not really sure what to do at the moment...I met this girl about a month ago. She was with her best friend, and I was with a male friend. I found out she liked me so we exchanged numbers and the four of us started double dating. Things were going really well. I took her to the movies, I took her for dinner, we saw each other a lot, especially for the first couple of weeks. She would text me to say she missed me, and things were generally really good.Things started to turn sour with my friend and her friend - they had a couple of minor arguments, as the two girls wanted to hang out alone together sometimes. I didn't have a problem with that, because everyone needs their own space now and again.However one night my friend started getting quite annoyed and pretty much made this clear to the girls. So the girls have a night out together and I persuade my friend to stay in rather than go and join them.Two days later I text her asking how she is and did she still want to hang out tonight like we planned, and don't get a response. So I figure that's a little odd, but I leave it anyway. Then yesterday I sent just a casual text asking her how her day went, and still nothing. This evening I was getting slightly worried that I'd done something wrong so I tried to call her but she didn't pick up. This is very unusual as she normally replies to my text pretty quickly.Also, starting from around the same time my friend, has also not been able to get any response from his girl. I know he can be a very irritable guy who doesn't treat girls very good, and I think that is probably why they have stopped corresponding. However, I have no clue as to why I have also stopped receiving anything, as our relationship was... I would go so far as to say it was going perfectly. It is pretty obvious they both made a conscious decision to stop talking to us or somethingIt's been 4 days now since I heard from her. Do I give her some space, and how long before I should consider it 'over'? :-( From a very confused guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know for a fact she didn't lose her phone, as my friend sent a text to the girl asking her about her friend, and she replied almost straight back saying that her friend's phone was busted. This was about 24 hours after the first text I sent.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): That is very strange, especially if this girl seemed so nice in the beginning. Personally, I think its immature that she would stop talking to you.. its not like you did anything. But girls can put manipulate the things people do and say. Her friend may have spoken badly about you because she was upset that your friend was annoying her, or whatever he was doing.
I would definitely give it a few more days, maybe ask why she is ignoring you and if everything is okay. Just dont be overwhelming. If she doesnt come around, then this girl was definitely not perfect for you.
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reader, Shen  +, writes (16 June 2010):
Could she have lost her phone?
Easy enough to do, I would try sending txt or calling a mutual friend .. sending flowers never hurts.. If no response then keep on looking for the right one.
If you choose to do nothing I would say a fortnight would be the time that you can say it will not go on.
Sometimes people do get busy , if this is the case she will have had time to call in a fortnight.
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