A
female
age
36-40,
*eccamega
writes:This seems to be a common problem. I know I have this problem and from other posts here, I'm not alone. I utterly hate it how the media often portrays us young adults as slackers and child- adults, it makes me mad. I actually want to leave home and I'm 23 and all my parents do is swear their head off at me, like I'm still a child! No explaination from them though. Why are babyboomers like this? If I was in my grandmothers generation, I would be married with children already. No living with parents who never want me to grow up.
View related questions:
grandmother Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (28 December 2010):
How do I not understand? My parents are baby boomer generation and they've let me stay with them as long as I want. Do I choose to? No. So please explain how I don't understand. And why would your parents swear at your cousins? They're not their kids. I don't think your parents should swear at you and unless it's kept pretty secretive, I don't think of it as the norm to swear at your children.
A
female
reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 December 2010):
 How do you know they dont? Maybe they do it when you're not looking. Anyway, parents typically will want their children to move out. If your parents don't want you to leave then ok, but that doesn't mean you are forced to stay. You are free to move out, so there is nothing to complain about, you just need to take action.
...............................
A
female
reader, meccamega +, writes (27 December 2010):
meccamega is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPinktopaz, you don't understand. All my cousins have moved out and already are parents. But why do my parents never swear their their head off at my cousins? Why are they different?
...............................
A
female
reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (22 December 2010):
 Trust me because this is coming from a babyboomer, if your parents are swearing at you all the time, I'll bet the farm they'll be tickled pink when you move out. Some baby birds need a push.
...............................
A
male
reader, C. Grant  +, writes (22 December 2010):
 You're kidding me, right? I can't wait to be an empty nester. I will be delighted to see the last of my kids get out on their own. One of my cousins sold his house shortly after his youngest turned 18 -- "sorry, sweetie, you're on your own now." Best thing a parent can do for their kids.
...............................
A
female
reader, chigirl +, writes (22 December 2010):
Pinktopaz also said some people have to be on their own from 18... well a lot have to stand on their own feet from 15 in my country. We often have to move away from home to go to high school, and I too moved when I was 16, first year of high school. The generation before me even earlier sometimes, my step-dad moved for himself at 14.
Just thought I'd mention that it's not particularly unusual for a 16 year old to live on his/her own either.
...............................
A
female
reader, chigirl +, writes (22 December 2010):
Why aren't you moving out exactly? If they swear your head off by you mentioning it then surely that is just another good reason to move out? If they talk to you as if you are a child, then that too would be a good reason to move out? So why aren't you?
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010): It is portrayed as a widespread phenomenon. My parents too are baby boomers yet my sister and myself both moved out of our home when we were 19. Since then all the kids I have known also moved out of their parents home. We were in college or graduated and working all doing our own thing, not living at home, most of us at the insistence of our parents. So not all kids of baby boomers have had a similar experience as yours.What does appear to be true is that the economy has changed considerably and with the rise in college attendance, more kids go to college but there are still not quite as many job opportunities for those who have been educated. That has caused many kids to have to rely on the help of their parents or in some cases kids even needing to move back home to save money. What also appears to have changed is the typical marrying age. Having grown up in the age of divorce, it does appear that our generation is not as quick to rush into marriage. Perhaps our perception of family values has changed. Perhaps we have subconsciously decided to take our time so as not to make the same mistakes our parents made. With the rise of neo-liberalism in the 80's which led to the decline of social welfare (and social cohesion) society became more segregated and individualistic. Everybody out for themselves. Greed is paramount. Something happened in our society that changed alot of things. And it is still open to debate as to what exactly is going on. And like the previous poster said parents usually want the best for us. And having given us to inherit a world where jobs are lacking, the economy sucks, greed is ubiquitous, family values down the drain, chivalry is non existent...they probably feel bad for us. The world is not what it used to be. So they are more protective.
...............................
A
female
reader, pinktopaz +, writes (22 December 2010):
Probably because they know that being an adult on your own is hard and they have the means to support you at home. If they had to do it over again they would have stayed home and finished school, which is what they usually want you to do. Parents usually want you to have a better life than they did, so usually you're not more well off or can live comfortably until after you've graduated college and have a decent job.
You're 23...so I'm pretty sure they don't have a gun to your head making you stay. Some people have to be on their own starting at 18. If you don't like being treated like a child then move out. Don't blame your parents as to why you're still at home. If anything, it's pretty nice of them.
...............................
|
