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Why don't any girls pay attention to me?

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Question - (24 January 2013) 9 Answers - (Newest, 25 January 2013)
A male United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Ever since I hit 15 my teenage hormones kicked in and my personality took a complete 360. Before I hit 15 girls thought I was really cute because of how happy, playful, and funny guy I was, not to mention I had a tough personality. But then I noticed I became constantly depressed, tired all the time, extremely moody, I get pissed and annoyed at the smallest things, I became a boring person, not funny anymore, and I want to cry at things people say that never even bothered me before. I also got acne but it doesn't bother me at all. Now absolutely no girls like me, when I used to have many like me.

This has been going on all of high school and I'm 18 years old now and yes I'm a guy. I still have the acne and all the stuff I described. Will I ever go back to my old self or is this just my adult personality? It just doesn't seem right.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2013):

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@Trancedrythmear- No I haven't seen a doctor. I figure since everyone goes through puberty differently maybe I'm just having a harder time then the average person. Also I feel like a huge wuss even though these are things completely out of my control.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2013):

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It's gotta be a phase. Did any of you have acne when you were a teen or were really moody and then you it all went away suddenly when you hit a certain age? or maybe yours went away gradually?

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A male reader, TrancedRhythmEar Saudi Arabia +, writes (25 January 2013):

TrancedRhythmEar agony auntLol relax pal. Id say youre just goin thru a phase. Tea tree oil and apple cider vinegar for skin care could help. Girls like a tough personality it shows masculinity n confidence combine it with humor some mild kindness n respect n voila youve got im a chick magney written all over you. Have u seen a doctor regarding your moods? This is crucial for proper self development bc if u have a mental condition it could affect other aspects of ur life including dating.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2013):

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Even though I'm 18, are my hormones still going crazy? I seriously think that's the cause of it. It's the only thing that makes sense because these emotions forced themselves on me the same exact time I got acne, which was age 15. That tells me that was when my hormones went out of control.

If I'm right, do these hormones balance themselves out and go back to normal? Then will I be a man?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2013):

Man to man...here is the formula...start working out. Don't bulk up...just get lean and mean. Watch Brian Regan, Dave Chappelle and south park and learn some funny jokes, then watch every James bond movie ever made. Drink moderately but dont get drunk and don't do drugs...they really screw with your hormones and chicks hate it. Last but not least...learn a skill and get a job. Chicks love responsible men!

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A female reader, llifton United States +, writes (25 January 2013):

llifton agony auntif i were you, i'd think about seeing a Doctor and see if you aren't suffering from depression. that would explain the chronic fatigue and temperment change. it's just a simple serotonin imbalance and meds can fix that right up for you and get you back to your old self, if that is, in fact, the case for you.

as for the acne, well, that's just teenager stuff. of course, a doctor can prescribe you meds for that, too, if you wish. but it seems that's the least of your concern here.

good luck and hope this helps.

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A male reader, CMMP United States +, writes (25 January 2013):

They don't call them awkward years for nothing. Some people are worse than others, but most will grow out of it.

If you feel that your problems go above and beyond the typical then you may need to try counseling or something to try and work it out.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2013):

Sorry dude. but your Attitude and anger has something to do with it.

Getting angry at small thing a girl does not like.

I am a girl and I use to hang out with this guy that would get angry at small things and I did not like it. try and change you're attitude and try not to get angry at small things.

It will take sometime to stop getting angry and ect. girls so do not like a guy who gets angry and who gets constantly depressed, tired all the time, extremely moody, extremely moody. so try and work on those things. it will take time. maybe and get some help. if you can it get over that and then you get girls to like you and date you.

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A female reader, itcantjustbeme United States +, writes (25 January 2013):

itcantjustbeme agony auntGuys don't finish with puberty until their early twenties... until then it can be extremely awkward for most.

Sometimes because of your loss of confidence because of it it can effect your personality and your outlook on life... being upset or anxious about is not the way to look at it. Moods and attitudes are contagious and people can feel them when they're around you, so if you're feeling this way people wont really want to be around that.

I've said it before, but sometimes faking happy can actually make you happy. Trying to be happy will make you happy... People want to be around other happy people.

But I promise you that no matter what, it gets better... Someday, like when you're 25 and you'll look back on this time when you're getting ready to propose to the girl of your dreams you're going to think "Wow, that was an awkward phase in my life, I'm so happy it helped mold me into the person I am now, the person that made her love me." And that's all the difference.

I know a lot of the internet has 'forever alone' memes and jokes, but you're only going to be forever alone if YOU let YOU be... and you don't want that... that's not going to happen.

Everyone gets depressed sometimes for one reason or another, just don't let yourself suffer alone. Look for support and help through family and friends. They will be there for you, you just have to grab you voice and speak up.

Please, don't be afraid to smile. Happy looks good on everyone.

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