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writes:i am 19 and my 13 year old brother has anorexia and he has been hospitalized as his heart rate is very low so he has to stay in there for 2-3 weeks. I was going to see him today but he told my mom that he didn't want me to go. I know he is unwell but it hurts as we are best friends and I don't understand why he doesn't want me his sister to see him.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (26 April 2010):
 Aww...just give him time. He's ashamed and feels not himself. You two are best friends, so I'm sure he looks up to you and feels like he's disappointed you somehow. Poor guy. Don't worry, he *will* want to see you and talk to you. Just give him lots of time and lots more unconditional love, because he needs it.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (26 April 2010):
 You should do your best to forgive him for not feeling well enough to see you. I think he probably is embarassed at being in the hospital. One of the awful things about being in a hospital is that you have no control over your life. You are on everyone else's schedule and are told when to eat and sleep and are poked and prodded and stuck with needles by strangers. It is pretty exhausting and disorienting.
The only control he has right now is over who gets to visit and he's probably just wanting to lie low and not have to pretend to feel better. He just wants to lie there and get over it. If he is anorexic, he may be very upset at this loss over the control of his body, and isn't too happy to be there in the first place.
You're the mature older sister, find it in your heart to see beyond your wounded pride and recognize his human weakness, pain and unhappiness is what is making that decision for him, not your brother's loving side, okay?
Take care.
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