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female
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18-21,
anonymous
writes:Hello,When my boyfriend's having a bad day, or feels under the weather, I always tell him loving things and let him know I'm always here for him, but when I'm feeling bad, or emotional he just says I should stop being stupid, I've told him when I'm like that, telling me he loves me and what not really helps, but he doesn't get it. What should I do? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008): Men and women are totally two different beings.I feel we are more vocal with our feelings.Getting a guy to talk is like being at the dentists(rolling my eyes).Also they cannot handle emotions from a woman.I am a regular waterpot myself.It makes them very uncomfortable.He cannot see you cry or feel bad.He tries to make you stop by saying such hurtful things as that's the only way he knows to stop you.I have named it the caveman syndrome.Does that make what he is doing right?NO.
The solution to this problem is, Put your point across in a firm way.No tears.No emotions.No quivering voice.The way you will talk to your sub-ordinate at work.Tell him in a soft but firm voice,"Next time I am feeling bad all I want is a hug.If you cannot spout Christopher Marlowe its fine.But I wouldn't put up with you calling me names".Act strong.(you might be quivering inside.Learn to hide it).Tell it and leave the room.The next time you see him act as if nothing happened.If he still keeps on doing it you deserve better.You would be better off with a guy who can reveal his emotions.
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reader, boo22 +, writes (9 November 2008):
 Next time he's having a bad day tell him to shut up and see if it helps him, if not you can point this out to him and see if that works. I can see why this would upset you. good luck x
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