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writes: I know a guy who is married and he is very friendly and talktive with me when his wife is not around and when she is around us he pretty much doesn't talk to me at all. Just say hi. I am married too. I don't think he flirts with me, if he does I have not noticed yet but just wondering why he doesn't talk to me in the same way when his wife is around, what's the big deal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo I saw the guy yesterday with his wife and my husband.
His wife, me and my husband were there first then he gets there just talks with his wife, didn't even come tell me hi. So his wife went back to her car and then I told him Hi and then he saked hands with my husband. Then there we are with this unconrtable silence then I started making conversation by asking him several questions, I was standind between him and my husband. He talks the whole time just looking at my husband , he coud not keep his eyes on me, only once he looked into my eyes and that's it and it was really quick, just a glance. But when we talk just him and me by myself we keep eye contact all the time. Really funny...
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (30 October 2009):
 Ok if his wife is the jealous type you would naturally become an automaton as to not raise ire or jealousy and no reason for her to treat you differently. Idealy it would be to give her the impression you are no threat.
If you read what happened in the other post, one action completely changed how that wife dealt with her husband and with that particular woman. Not to say she has an issue with you now. He hasn't given her reason and I think would like to keep it that way if you get my drift.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhm...his wife is nothing like that...seriously. She is very pretty. Well, people can be weird sometimes, maybe he is just weird. I am sure his wife would not mind him talking to me in front of her. Awhile back I needed something from his wife and she could not help me. Then she told me:" Sorry I have not replied to your message, I will have X to reply to you".When he sent me a message, it was kind of funny. He introduced himself like I would not know it was him. Then he said if I ever had any questions I could get him at work and then he gave me his e-mail. Then awhile later I did have a question, I wrote him an e-mail to his work and he never replied but next time he saw me he said he forgot to reply and he said sorry.So, nothing really explains his behaviour. He is just weird. If his wife was the jeolous type why would she have him to e-mail me?Well, let him be that way. If he just likes chatting with me when his wife is not around...fine. We never talk nothing too important anyways.I would not mind to know he is attracted to me but I doubt, anyways I am not very good at reading people. I know he is married, he knows I am married how am I suppose to know a guy is attracted to me? I don't know...it's just funny...People are funny...
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reader, HonningKanin +, writes (30 October 2009):
His wife seriously could be like this one
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-feel-there-is-something-wrong-but-i.html
I would say someone is probably on a short leesh.
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reader, Tigerlily  + ♥, writes (30 October 2009):
He's probably attracted to you and then feels self-conscious about it when his wife is around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys ,but as far as I know his wife is not jeolous, she is very nice. She has told me a little about their relationship and I am sure he never cheated on her. They seem to be happily married. They both seem to be great people with values and I don't think he ever cheated on her. But then again, it seems things are never like the way it seems. Last time I saw him when she was around he treated me almost like I was a stranger, like he had never talked to me before. We have never talked in front of his wife. Last time I saw him with his wife he did not even glance a pick at me. Seriously , when I see him by himself or with his wife is like two different people and since this has being going on for awhile it just got me wondering.
Actually, last time I saw him with his wife I went to him for a little chat and he pretty much did not respond. Very short answers and walked away. Again, they seem both great people I just don't get why he can't be the same when his wife is around...go figure...
My husband can talk to his wife in my presence...lol But he and my husband never really talked, just skaked hands and say hi.
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reader, cgrlygo + ♥, writes (29 October 2009):
 I agree with cg, being friends is fine but being to close just might get you caught in the cross fire. It sounds as though there are some issues with her trusting him... I would take that as a warning and steer clear.
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reader, CaringGuy  + ♥, writes (29 October 2009):
His wife might be a bit insecure or jealous, or something in the past might have happened in their relationship to make it that he feels he can't talk to women in front of his wife (like he may have cheated). Enjoy being his friend, but be careful not to get too close. There is more going on in his marriage that it would appear, and you don't want to get dragged into it.
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