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age
36-40,
*rndz4life
writes:HiI am in a relationship with a guy for 6 months. He loves me a lot and so do I. We plan to get married in few years. He usually texts me and calls me often to ask about my whereabouts as well as 'miss u lot' and 'luv u' text. It is like he cant think of anything else while doing his regular activities like his job and going with friends.The problem is whenever we get physical, (usually once in 3 weeks due to our schedule but no sex as I don't believe in premarital sex and he totally supports me), after that his behaviour seems to change - he calls and texts very less, is busy with his friends n work and is not excited about meeting me again that same day neither he asks about my well being.. i know he cares a lot for me but the fact of conveying his concern seems to be lost.He pampers me the rest of the days and suddenly it comes to zero. Maybe that is affecting me: does he really change behaviour-wise or am I thinking too much???? And if yes then why???I have tried talking to him but he just says its nothing like that but I cant stop that feeling within me.
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reader, frndz4life +, writes (3 November 2012):
frndz4life is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanku for suggestions!! yes i mean makeout!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2012): Hmm. I'm not sure what you mean by physical. Making out? Or other touchy-feely things? In either case, perhaps the lack of sex affects his ability to release the tension (if youbknow what I mean), and has to take care of it himself. Maybe that gives him a sense of shame and unworthiness? I don't know. I'm glad to see a girl who is willing to wait until marriage to have sex, and I hope you continue to. It's hard to say exactly what's the issue without knowing more. If you've talked to him about it and he says it's nothing, it could very well be. Don't push it too much. If you feel he's less attentive, try to be the attentive one in those days. Text/call him just to say "hi" and "miss you." That could be just what the doctor ordered. :)
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