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writes:My husband likes to watch me have sex with other men we have already done it with 3 differnt men.it has been a while since weve done and it is driving him crazy he cant wait to do it again,why does he want to share me if he is so in love with me and thinks i am hot.and he is a really jealous person. how can he do that?
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reader, mwfwntsxxxchat +, writes (18 September 2008):
I'm only 26 and I feel exactly how you describe your husband. My wife and I are going into our 6th year of marriage very soon. My wife is only the 3rd person I've had sex with. She was much more experienced than I was when her and I started having sex. About 3 weeks before we got married, she asked me what I wanted to do (sexually). I asked her what she had done and she told me to name stuff and she'd say whether or not she had done it. First thing on my list was if she had sex with 2 guys at once. She said she hadn't but had always wanted to. That was all I needed to hear. For 4 years about once a month I would drop a little hint that I really wanted her to. Not that she didn't know, she was VERY aware that I wanted to watch her with me and another guy. Well, just a few months ago, I found out the my wife was talking to a guy behind my back. Now, for years I had told my wife that I didn't care who she talked to or what she did, I just wanted to know about it. This was the second time that I found out she was talking to a guy behind my back. I got really upset that she had been decieving me and long story short, the whole thing was amended and she started talking to other guys. It was only about a month later that she met up with her first guy by herself. When she came home, she told me she had made out with him in the parking lot and felt his dick through his pants. I was so turned on and so was she. Over the course of the next couple months, she met up with about 6 different guys. Some guys she met multiple times, others were only one time. But to answer your question, I feel weird to, I don't know why I love it so much, but I absolutely LOVE to watch my wife with other guys. I seeing her get satisfied by other guys and even more so, it makes our sex so much better when she comes home after. AND, like your husband, I am very jealous too. Recently we had a fight because I found out she was talking to a guy who I knew wanted her to leave me. I let her talk to just about anyone, but I won't let anyone jeapordize our marriage. I know it sounds weird, but certain guys I don't want her to talk to at all. And she's usually okay with that. In the end, our relationship is very strong and healthy and a lot of fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008): why you like to have your husband watch you having sexwith another man?why do it if you dont like it,dont blame him only,blame yourself or just enjoy it both of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): My wife at 32 used to feel the same as you. First please understand we love one another very much and have been together now for nearly twenty years.
My wife was and is hot. She has always been hit on her entire life by men and sometimes women. She could easily be in Penthouse Fifteen years ago she thought I was nuts when I told her I wanted to see her with other guy. She questioned my love for her, thought it was too weird to be healthy.
But she was confused because she did know I loved her and always cared for her. At first she did agree so she did it just for me. We were carful and we selected a friend of ours who was married. I loved it. It was so erotic to see her being ravaged. There is sex with love. This was just hot sex. It was like a sweet treat and nothing more. Both of us had her several times and each time I encouraged her to get out of it what SHE wanted and to try to just let go and be naughty. I also told her how much she meant to ber.
She still thought I was crazy the next time I asked her.. but again she did it to please me. Again I told her over and over how much I loved her for what she doing.. and to try to get what SHE wanted. About e months later and with her fifth man she had a couple of orgasms.
She know I love her. She realizes how hot I am for her and I have always been true her. She has grown to appreciate and enjoy her sexual freedom. We don't cheat but every once in a while we will have a treat. She now picks and chooses men she wants to perform with.
We did go through a challenging time where she really got angry and set out to see if I really loved her. I had brought home 3 different men in less than a week at she nearly left. She was really angry. So I apologized and we went on short 4 day holiday to Aruba. She started picking up men openly and bringing back to the room to watch them. She went through a lot of men in those 4 days. Dozens and dozens of condoms. Each time she asked me if I still thought she was hot. On the third day she only did two men at a time. On the fourth day I begged her no more and apologized to her for being so selfish. She was no longer angry. She accepted my apology and we spent the rest of the day together and a romantic dinner.
Since then we have our wild times a few times year. She tells me she wants to have me watch her with and I set it up. Sometimes she wants three of us. She later confessed that she discovered her true sexual self when we were in Aruba. And she stopped being mad at about midnight of the second day. The third day she took my advice and totally submitted herself to her feelings and took what she wanted. So she decided her third day would be a day of doubles for her. She said it liberating to show her submission with multiple men in front of me. Because in a strange way it gave her power.
I love her very much and I look forward to the next twenty years.
My advice... is you obviously are proving your love by doing what he wants... take the opportunity and discover your own sexuality.
Respect one another and stay loving to one another. Don't be negative and try to make him jealous. By submitting you'll have the real power... the power of choice of doing what and when you want. Life is short. Enjoy
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): I think Marcellas hit the nail on the head. I was trying to get the words to describe it but couldn't come up with it any better. It is my number one fantasy with my wife as well. I am an very jealous person when it comes to her which makes it feel even more alien to me. Another thing I think makes it seem enjoyable is the fact that I think my wife is beautiful and a great lover. When we are making love, I only get to see her from certain angles. I've used a video camera but then I am limited to one angle. I'm also constantly thinking of how we should be positioned etc which definitely takes away from the passion. I'm not sure how I would do it if she gave me a green light. Times are so dangerous now with STD's that you definitely couldn't trust a stranger. If you did have a friend you could trust that will cause problems as well. You have to see this guy after it happens. That can open another can of worms in itself. I'm not real sure what the solution is, but I can say that you husband is living what I masturbate to 99% of the time...Male, 32, jealous husband
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2007): This will end in heartache.
Put an end to it now. No more. Finito.
You'll probably end up wanting to be with one of the other guys instead of your husband, which will no doubt piss him off slightly. Jealousy and divorce will surely follow in short order.
Phil
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reader, Irish49  + ♥, writes (14 July 2007):
 I disagree. Asking you to boink other men so he can 'watch' is not an act of love and cherishment, at all. I hope these men you have had sex with, are not complete strangers, dear. Having sex with strangers can put you at risk for a host of problems. (Std's, AIDS, pregnancies) . So please remember, you are under no obligation to risk contracting an STD, just to indulge your husband sexual wants and needs. So, you ask ..how can he do that? Your husband has a fetish. He gets sexually turned on seeing other men boink you. It's a means to fulfilling his own, personal sexual fantasy. But can I ask. Is doing this...fulfilling you? How does it make you feel? Are you doing this just for him, or are you doing it for 'you', as well? Is this a shared experience that both of you savor and enjoy? I sure hope so.
While having sex with other men is totally your choice and perhaps this sexual exploration works for your marriage...I can honestly state that many of us gals out here, prefer a man in our life, who would not want to see us boinking other men. Personally, I tend to find sex without some level of love and emotional attachement to be lonely, empty and unsatisfying. I would find it demoralizing and exploitive and I would really question if my partner truely loved me, to ask me to do such a thing. I believe in the sharing of two lives, I believe in fidelity in every way. So, my dear...put your needs, your health ahead of your hubby's sexual fetishes, if you feel the need to..I'd hate to see you pay a huge price, just to give him his self-involved thrills. Please be careful and look out for your physical and emotional health. Take care, hun and good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2007): I am a 40 yr old married man and have been married for 13 yrs. I too would LOVE to see my wife have sex with other men - and YES I do LOVE her very much. Men in general are very visual, we get turned on by watching - ie. porn on video, internet etc. We use or imaginations when masterbating, and the thought of ACTUALLY seeing it done is a HUGE turn on. Your husband does LOVE you and the fact that you are willing to do it for him (and yourself) is great. I hope you are not forced into this but instead are willing and that you do it because you want to as well. If you are not happy with this scene then you should tell your husband that though you love him and enjoy making him happy this is not what you want to do and he will understand. I am very happy to see that you were willing to do it and 3 times now WOW Keep having fun and enjoy (if and only if you do) and dont worry I believe that your Husband loves you a lot and is very grateful for you.
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reader, Marcellas +, writes (12 July 2007):
It's the nervous intensity, the taboo and the jealousy and the extreme aspect of this that makes it the number one fantasy that men have.. all over the web, wherever men chat this is the number one fantasy thing.... most dont ever get to really experience it,... no kidding, its very common. I must admit, I'd like to watch my wife with another guy. It wont happen, but the idea is outrageous and titillating. We have been into pixxx taking, just us, one other guy once, no sex, just her posing for us,,,, that was extreme. If you've done it 3 times, he is enjoying the intensity and wanting more. Keep a handle on it. Like anything, it takes more and more to get the same zing. If you manage to keep it seldom, and only when you are up for it, and make the rules and all, it will be ok i'd suppose. dont go in for wilder and wilder scenarios. keep it small and simple, and dont when you dont want to(although THAT would be a huge turn on if you did but didnt want to) I think its the taboo and outragoeusness of it that makes it so intriguing.
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