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writes:I can't figure out my friend's girlfriend. When I am at his house and she and I are alone she likes to show me sexy,nude pictures of herself and she's always talking to me and touching my thigh quite often. Sometimes when we talk she tells me things she does with my friend and sexy things she wants to do for him. I have tried to test the waters with her a bit by flirting but she went and told my friend about it, which I am confused about. I even asked her out and she went and told my friend about it even though she said that she would go out with me. I confronted her about it but she wouldn't take responsibility and said she didnt tell him anything, so I told her to forget I asked her out. I don't know why she is acting like this. Does she like me or is she doing it for attention?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 October 2016):
 Have you told him though that you have tried hitting on her and asking her out? Am guessing you haven't or else he would be considering getting rid off you as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2016): a girl like this makes all of us girls have a bad reputation. she doesnt deserve to have a loving boyfriend if she is going to treat him like this. when you are in a relationship it is all about being committed to that one person. if she isnt doing that and being like this with you who else is she being like this with? do you really think your friend deserves to have someone like this. try and get some evidence and show him that this girl is not right for him, please help him to find a nice girl who will treat him well and maybe in the process she will introduce you to one of her girl friends who you could build a connection with?
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (8 October 2016):
 The thing is, OP, while he should get rid of her, he should also consider getingt rid of you because you still hit on his girlfriend - which shows what *you* are like.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2016): I have told my friend about what she does and pictures she has shown me. He still continues to be with her. He also came to find out she was talking to other men. He has told me that he does not want to be with her anymore and that he is planning to leave Her in a few weeks because he has been talking to someone else as well. He knows how she is, hence why we are still friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2016): What you should have done was the first sign of her hitting on you, you shut her down and tell your friend. If she's shown you a particular picture then let him know which one, or ones, because there is no way you'd know the details of a picture without her showing you - proving to him you'd seen it.If you were a decent friend you would've done that for your mate because he deserves to know his girlfriend has the potential to cheat - or even if she doesn't fully cheat she shouldn't be sharing nude pics with his mates. Like another poster said, she could be using you as a pawn in her game of shutting him off from his friends and gaining control of him and who he sees and what he does. If he thinks you're hitting on her he will likely cut you out of his life. In the future respect your mates more than the thought of bedding their girlfriend.
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reader, N91 +, writes (5 October 2016):
 She's trying to cause trouble and you're allowing her to.
You should be pretty ashamed that you asked your friends girlfriend out as that's awful behaviour and it's very surprising that he's not told you where to get off to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2016): It's not her behavior that should be questioned, it's yours! If your bud's girl is hitting on you, you leave the room and avoid being alone with her. You don't flirt back and you don't ask her out.
If you were checking her out all along, you gave her ammunition. Clever girl she is!
She set you up and beat you to the draw before you got a chance to rat her out. He probably thought he could trust you no matter what she did. You're his bro!
That's also an old tactic of getting a best-bud out of the way when a selfish female gets tired of competing for attention. She's a psycho type of girlfriend who wants to whittle down his circle of friends until she is completely in control of his life, and commands all his attention.
I have to say, if that's the kind of friend you are, good thing she busted you to your friend.
Oh, she's got her karma coming to her too! Unless he has mush for brains, he'll figure her out.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (5 October 2016):
In what world is it okay to ask your friend's girlfriend out?! Really, OP; I'm surprised you're not blocked from his life!
She likes the drama and attention, rather than who gives it to her. Don't be alone with her if you can't be a decent friend. Shut her down when she talks about inappropriate things and change the subject. If she continues, ignore her and don't reply or look at things she shows you. If she touches you, move away.
It's quite simple, OP - act the way you'd want other guys to act around your girlfriend.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (4 October 2016):
What a lovely friend you are asking his girlfriend out, no she does not like you, she just wants the attention and drama. She wants her boyfriend to think you are hitting on her, that she is irresistible. A bit of advice, try and be a better friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2016): A better question than "does she like me" that you should be asking is why do you like her? You asked her out, so I assume you like her. However, the reality is you would never be able to trust her. If you were to date her, she would go behind your back like she is your friend, and show other guys nude pictures of herself. Would you be okay with that? And if so, why? What she's doing is incredibly sleazy. She doesn't respect you or him.
Yes, she's doing it for attention. Don't give it to her. That's the only way it will stop. I don't care how "sexy" she is. She is dating someone you call your friend. Practice some self control. There are plenty of other sexy women that aren't your friend's girlfriend that you can ask out.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (4 October 2016):
 Come on, OP you can't be that dense? She likes the attention. Sounds like a classic attention monger behavior.
My advice, SHUT her down when she starts, tell her it's NOT appropriate for her to OVERSHARE those things with another guy beside her BF, your friend.
She wants men to find her irresistible, but somehow not cross whatever line she decides to make up.
You made the CLASSIC mistake (which I think she was counting on) to hit on her. So she could pull the "I didn't do anything wrong, you misunderstand me!"
Showing you nudes, isn't consent. It's just really tacky.
Talking about sex, isn't consent. It's just really tacky.
Could also be that she really isn't a big fan of you being a friend of her BF, so she is trying to create drama to alienate you.
Don't be stupid, OK? She is your BFF's GF and thus OFF LIMITS - don't think with your dick!
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