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writes:okay so i have been with my boyfriend for 5 years, and everytime were alone he always trys to have sex with me its so annoying! Some days i just want to hang out watch a movie and cuddle but he just wants to have sex.... and when i tell him no he just gets so pissed and starts having a little kid attitude! I dont know what to do? Why do he act this way? Reply to this Question
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reader, Keira9312 +, writes (25 April 2010):
 If you really don''t want to have sex with him yet, then consider telling him that if he really loves you, he'll wait. Having sex with somebody is a special time, and should not be done so much for pleasure. Doing this brings another human being to the world if not careful, and it would not be fair to have an abortion, or to put them up for adoption. maybe your boyfriend was only into that one thing because he may just be that kind of person. Tell him how you feel, and that if he carries on, you will find someone else.3 Keira
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reader, Nano +, writes (25 April 2010):
Hiremember the nature of menmaybe his needs are above averagefirst, be glad that he is asking YOU for this not fooling around. second, being around you so close will make him want to get intimate. choose a good time to gently discuss this, as some men are really sensitive talking about such matter. let him know that you like expressing your love in other ways as well. and to feel loved, he has to do these things to you, such as kuddling, massages, etc . remember to reward him with sex when he does nice things for yu instead of sex. also once in a while, initiate it, even if you are not that into it, coz its not good for him to feels that its only one way. I know its hard sometimes, coz no matter how much we girls want sex, they want more.good luck
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reader, BettyBoup  +, writes (25 April 2010):
 You need to talk to him. Tell him how you feel. For him, sex is how he expresses his love for you. When you reject him, he feels like you dont find him desirable and this is why he winges. I know, I'm the reverse. My partner doesnt want sex as much as me and it has taken me a long time to get over it. At first it felt like our relationship was dying and that he didn't find me sexually attractive anymore/ It felt like I was in a one way relationship. For some people sex is very important on a personal level, not purely for gratification sake. But it must be annoying being on your side with him constantly after it when you're just not feeling it! Try to talk honestly to him about it. Reassure him that you love him and want a good sex life with him, but that sometimes, you just want to cuddle and nothing more. Tell him how you feel when he winges about it.Hopefully he will be able to accept how you feel and you can come to a compromise.Its unfortunate when people who love each other, have mismatched sex drives. But as everyone is differnet this happens. You just need to try to understand and have compassion for the other persons point of view, as well as being true to yourself and your own feelings.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (25 April 2010):
Why have you put up with it for so long?
He acts like this because you put up with it and it means he gets his own way.
If you stand up to him and let him know that if he carries on acting like a 2 year old he WILL lose you, then he might learn his lesson.
Tell him how he has to make you feel loved if he wants sex. If he's not interested then tell him to buy a blow up doll and walk away.
Good Luck!! xx
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