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anonymous
writes:There is this guy who acts like he hates my guts. He calls me ugly, and lame and slow, and don't even know my name! He talks to all of my girl friends, and everything. He gives them hugs and flirts with them but they can't stand him. Ok.. Today I was with my friend TT and the guy seen me with her and was like.."Oh TT.. Give me a hug!" Blah Blah.. I'm like he didn't even want to give her a hug. He just likes to torture me, but I don't even care because he's not my type and he isn't even all that. I just want to know why he acts like a JERK towards me! Does he like me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): Hum, I had a simular problem once. Except this guy did know me and we hung-out in a group with my friends. They all hated him. He was always trying to do naughty things to the girls in my group and actually dated two of them, on being my best friend. He was also in 2 of my classes. He was really annoying...Sooner or later, I lost it. And I back-handed him with my fist, and apperently I sent him flying [I don't even remember what he said to make me mad]. But for the next few weeks he didn't come near me at all! THen when he finally did, one of my friends got mad at him, jumped on him and bit him. He had to get shots. I never knew why he did what he did, I mean everyday he tried to unhook my bra [I'm a bit top-heavy and he was a perv] and I either kicked him or punched him. He also hit on other girls right in front of me, while calling me a lesbian [which I'm not he only did that to piss me off], and I even helped him get a date. So why did he do all those mean things? I don't know...During the summer he moved and I saw him once after that at the mall...On my birthday, where he continued to torture me and I almost killed him [backwards headlock of doom, as I like to call it]. He could have just pretended to hate me to get my attention, maybe because he figured I was the type of girl who always went for the guys who treated me like dirt! Or he just wanted someone to mess with every 2 seconds and to flaunt his intellect in front of. [I was the smartest one in my classes before he showed up...That punk!] I bet your wondering why I told you this? Personal experience...He could hate you. Or he could have the hotts for you! You may just want to confront him about it. But he probably won't give you a straight answer even if you do [Gawd, football players and their egos...]. So I would suggest trying something bold like...Acting. If you decide to talk to him, lie and say you like him, try and make it like a crush-type thing. He still may not buy it, he may actually act all macho like "I knew you couldn't resist me". Yeah, don't fall for it. If he says that he probably likes you back and is trying to cover it up. If he thinks you are acting all freakish or something then that probably means he's smarter than ya'll think he is or he just hates you.Another thing is that you may just be able to talk your cousin into doing a favor for you, but that would require blackmail or paymeant on your end. If he really is a jerk, I mean. I used to think my cousin was a jerk, eh, not so much. But you could ask him to find out for you. Just a thought.Or you could do something like I did and violently attack him when he shows up. Now if he's a football player, he's probably a lot stronger than you [I say probably because sometimes girls go nuts when I say they actually are stronger than them; mainly my crazy friends]. So you could get someone to violently attack him for you. Apperently you go to High School, and depending on if it's public or privet, you should't have a problem finding anybody [I could recomend a certain group of people, but I like to keep our violentness non-public]. Or you could not attack him and just tell him to "F*** Off and find some other group to stalk". But that may be a bit to direct. Anyway, that's what I would do if I were you. I like to take matters into my own hands, literally, and solve most things with pure hatred and violence. Because for me it's always worked and I haven't been caught yet. But I also haven't done anything wrong yet. I push the rules, not break them. But that's me, you may be a whole lot different. I'm sure you are, I have Hostility problems. But it works for me. One last thing, you could tell the football coach. While no players are around of course, you can play it smart and get back at him. Not sure about your school, but where I used to go the coaches would actually listen to the students about a football player. However, you'd have to smuge the truth...Well, not so much. "Stalking me and my friends" there you go. But I wouldn't, he could actually get sent to jail for that. But that's just another suggestion.Anyway that's my advice, I know it's long, but it could help. I wish you luck and I will pray for him to leave you alone. Good luck!
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reader, q1605 +, writes (28 February 2008):
 if you didn't like him why would you care if he likes you. but I think he likes you and I think you would like for him to like you. And if you both make the other know this before someone loses an eye you could make a nice couple
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reader, love-him  +, writes (28 February 2008):
 HEY!!
Ignore him, he is being childish!!
GOOD LUCK!! Feel free to mail me at any time x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, I do not have a crush on him. He "liked" my friend Sissy, and I was encouraging her to hang out with him, and talk to him and all of a sudden !BOOM! He saw me and hated me. He's a football player and he hangs out with my jerk of a cousin. He comes in the library where I hang out during lunch and pretends to look around for my friend or for someone and looks at me and leaves. One day he actually tried to be nice, when I was talking to my friend Sissy and I was like "Yeah..Ok Bye." He's such a loser. My friends talk badly about him behind his back but I know they like the attention..well Sissy does. This hasn't been bothering me but today I just wanted to get insight from other people. I think he likes me but then again he could just truly hate me. My friends just says, "I don't know why." and tell me all the mean thing he says or tell me what he says to them as in flirting..like he asked Sissy to come to his house, but I think he only does it so they can come back and tell me.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 February 2008):
 He probably thinks you are snobbish for ignoring him and that brings out the worst from him.
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reader, Irish49  + ♥, writes (28 February 2008):
 Some guys like to use the ole ploy "being mean, keeps them keen". He's an immature fool. Stop wasting your time on him and wondering if he likes you. His behaviors should tell you what his character is really like. Find someone who treats you with respect, is honest and doesn't act like this guy. Ignore him.
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reader, francine81 +, writes (28 February 2008):
this seems like a real cocky jerk. hes probably just mad that your not giving him attention. so my advice would be to keep ignoring him. you are better than that..unless you like him?i just learned that you need to ignore guys usually to get there attention or they leave you alone.
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reader, wwwchrissy +, writes (28 February 2008):
 Sounds to me like he is trying to get your attention whatever it takes. He is pushing for a reaction from you by insulting you and leaving you out. I think he probably does like you!
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