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Why does he say "its better to just be friends"?

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Question - (11 August 2011) 0 Answers - (Newest, )
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I met a guy a few months ago, but we both happen to always be busy when the other isn't.

But he has done I'd say 85% of the pursuing.. he has a stereotypical player trait around his lifestyle. but hey i am blonde, and we are not all stupid. Thats the reason why I let him do most of the chase, because if he is interested he'll come to me.

We have only managed to meet up twice since meeting each other in a bar, both pretty brief, one hour first time, 2 hours second time, both times at my place.

We kept in touch a lot though, and he often can be very very forward, but then in person, he won't even kiss me. I guess its not the right setting either though, we are both fairly worn out and at my place, just meeting because its the only possible time and way.

But after he leaves, he texts and calls constantly saying how 'much he wanted to', or telling me 'see I can behave myself' followed by 'in all honesty i wanted to rip your clothes off'

it's very intense.

but then the next day or two after I got a 'i think we are more friends than lovers' 'i think we should be friends, it'll be better that way'

I responded with 'sure, i'm good with that - yay I have a new friend and he is cool ;) ' with a 'its a shame we didnt try a kiss to see if there was an chemistry' but kept it simple saying i'm cool with friendship.

Later on in the day he said 'is that OK hun? being friends?'

I ignored it.

Deep down, i was so gutted, and still am. but hes away again at the moment, and I havent contacted, and wont. I think he will be back in touch. It was just so intense before, then nothing.

My sensible head says, hes just messing around for whatever unknown reason, but I dont understand why he didnt just try it on, if i didnt hook up with him, then he can move onto the next girl??

We do get on really easily, and we are attracted to eachother, intensely, but we didnt get to go on any real dates, to put in the effort etc.

I just don't get it? It's driving me crazy. And really, not many guys have driven me crazy, I've been happily single 1-2 years!

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