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writes:Why does he prefer to masturbate than have sexual things with me? I know it's natural for everyone but it makes me feel rejected because then hw doesn't want anything from me. It makes me feel sick. I don't want to feel bad about him doing it. What should I do? I feel like it effects me way more than it should. Reply to this Question
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reader, Denizen +, writes (22 October 2015):
 There are a couple of factors here. First you have to realise that masturbation for men and women is different. Men are usually looking for a quick release. This may not be the case with women. So, he may be wanting to satisfy his hormonal demands as quickly as possible.
The other aspect is that he may be fantasising about something he does not think you will be into.
This is where you and he need to open up about your own sexual fantasies and needs.
This is a sensitive area and you will need all your tact to make this transformation.
He has turned off sex with you because it's boring. It happens in so many relationships. It's not just you. Same place; same position; same time.
Do your best to open up the subject. If you can't then you need to visit a therapist together. That might be fun for you both.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (19 October 2015):
That is a very hurtful situation for you and very unfair.You will have to have an indept chat with him and tell him how you feel and ask him the reason why he behaviours that way.This must be talked out immediately,because it has caused you a lot of pain.Would you consider asking him to go with you to a counsellor and get some help.No its effecting you as it would anyone else.Kind wishes, NORA B.
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