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writes:Hello,My boyfriend always teases me, and when i tease back in the same way, he gets mad at me, and i dont understand why.I dont get mad at himf for teasing me, i just play along.Why does he get so butt hurt when i tease him? Its like he can do whatever he wants, but if i do the same, suddenly its a bad thing...
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reader, PeterPan  + ♥, writes (8 May 2008):
 I'm wondering what he teases you about... and when you're teasing back, is it along the same subject lines? Assuming so, then it just seems that he's a bit sensitive to that topic or teasing in general. I had this issue myself once. I didn't even realize that I was teasing in a hurtful way. So, I might suggest that you speak to him about cutting the teasing out from your relationship... or get him to tell you what's bothering him about it. You might be touching a nerve that you're unaware of.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): He probably takes himself too seriously. Some people just do not have a sense of humor about themselves. He may also be super sensitive, my step-dad is that way he picks on my mom and me but gets hurt as soon as you pick on him.
I'd ask him about if he means his own teasing to be hurtful and if not, if he knows its just for fun, why is it that he finds your teasing so hurtful? Is it something specific you are saying that's rubbing a sensitive spot?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): Because he's male. The male ego might be huge, but it's also much, much more fragile than a woman's. All you have to do to realize that is to check out all the posts on this site from men bellyaching about the fact that their girlfriends dared sleep with other people before they came along. Yet you don't see similar complaints from the women who post here about their men. Same applies to the teasing. Women are simply less fragile in these ways than men are. To men, what good for the goose is definitely not good for the gander. It's hypocritical and we shouldn't tolerate it anymore. It's 2008 for crying out loud!
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