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writes:My partner came home from work and he seems to find the need to tell me everything. He is turning 35 next year. He had to tell me that he saw a very, very attractive fifteen year old girl crossing the road whilst he was driving home from work. I do not know if I should leave him and move on or what I should do anymore. If you were in my position would you leave? I feel as if I am not good enough for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010): Not all grwon men gawking 15yo girls are created equal. There are some 15yo girls who look 12 and there are others who look 20. That's two very different kinds of attractions.
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reader, raiders  +, writes (16 June 2010):
 I think your husband has no business looking at a 15 year old....yuck he 35 just not right.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (16 June 2010):
 That's weird. Does he say that stuff a lot??
Although that's weird, there's a possibility that he's gotten so familiar with you and feels like you both are close friends that he forgets that you're not one of his guy buddies.
You are good enough for him, and you don't have to compare yourself to some random 15 year old. BTW, I wonder how he knows that she's 15?? Weird.
You've gotta tell him how his comments make you feel. It could be a simple case of insensitive obliviousness.
When you talk to him, don't get all hyper emotional and rail on him. Be very direct, and very calm, and explain the specific comment and how SPECIFICLY it makes you feel to hear him talk about girls.
I don't think you need to leave him, unless he gets REALLY obtuse and tries to justify it and not listen to your feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): There should more to the story than him telling you about 15 years old girl. That was a little weird of him to tell u that, but to leave a man over this one incident, it's quite silly.
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